Post Date December, 03 2023
There is a strange phenomenon in the Chinese film and television industry: although film and television are clearly referred to as culture, those directors with reflective abilities all said in an interview, "The quality of the professionals in this industry is too low, and they are too uneducated
This statement is hard to understand. Aren't those directors and actors all produced by "Beidian" and "Zhongxi"? So someone said, 'That's because there is no cultural hybridization, they don't have independent thinking ability, and they can't understand people.'.
Just thinking about it, if directors learn how to direct movies and actors learn how to act in movies, it wouldn't really be considered a culture, at most it would be considered a skill. So Jiang Wen said, 'Directors are not learned;'; Xia Yu said: Catch anyone on the street and you can go perform.
If you look at Yingda, you won't have these worries. He studied psychology at Peking University with a bachelor's degree, and after gaining a systematic understanding of humans, he went to the United States to study directing. I have both knowledge and skills.
Unfortunately, his full energy was not utilized in both of my interviews. I didn't talk to him about psychology or creativity. Watching his explosive knowledge, I developed an interest in vulgar tastes. I think knowledge is not for chatting.
When it comes to writing about men, one cannot help but talk about sex.
Xuecun calls Yingda the "mentor".
It is said that men who like to eat sweets are lascivious. However, no matter how many desserts Yingda eats, there may not be any other meaning besides adding some meat to the already overweight volume. When he was a child, his parents and the uncles and aunts around him often teased him. They asked, 'Is this aunt good-looking?'? Does that aunt look good or not? His answer always causes a lot of laughter.
Because he said, 'Small eyes look good, big mouth looks good.' His family and friends couldn't watch him suffer, so they began to teach him: silly children, big eyed aunts look good. Actually, this is not my feeling, it was instilled or even imposed by adults.
While adults continue to impose, I have been growing up to this day. Over the years, society has been constantly suggesting to me what kind of woman is beautiful, and I have unconsciously accepted this concept. Now, is the concept mine? Definitely not
By the time he discovered that aesthetics were instilled in him by others, he was already in his thirties and had no other views. Sometimes I just wonder, during the Tang Dynasty, when people saw women with bodies like gas canisters, they thought they were beautiful in their hearts? I think they must be.
At that time, men would definitely blush and heartbeat when they saw a chubby girl like Yang Guifei. Therefore, I believe that the so-called beauty must be a standard fabricated by humans
After peeling off the skin, how do people search for each other? Smell? Or a magnetic field?
Yingda said that the essence of interpersonal relationships is psychological state, especially between couples. This can be considered his experience after three marriages. For example, when you first meet a beautiful girl, you may blush and heartbeat, but after staying with her for a period of time, you can't see anything special about her, and you may even discover many flaws, feeling that she is not much different from other women.
Later on, I thought, 'Why did I come here?'? Actually, there are many people who are better than her. On the contrary, as we spend more time with a woman with an ordinary appearance, we increasingly find her adorable, especially in communication.
Love is her personality. At this point, their appearance is the same to me, and after watching for a while, they are both ordinary people. Only personality remains between husband and wife.
My only requirement for my wife is loyalty, "said Yingda." It's not easy to understand. How can I, Yingda, as a modern person, think this way? If we talk about a wife's qualities, such as intelligence, beauty, generosity, ability to live, loyalty, and so on, ask me which one is essential, it must be loyalty
Yingda returned to China after obtaining a master's degree in directing in the United States at the end of 1987. At this moment, his first marriage came to an end. They met in the United States, and after Inda finished his studies, his first ex-wife chose to stay in the United States.
They did not have any conflict, the key is that Yingda wants to return home. Whether it's me staying there with her or her returning home with me, it's a grievance for both of us. This grievance cannot be compensated for by a good relationship between the two of us
At the same time as returning home, he was with his later ex-wife Song Dandan. To be honest, I did not return home for her
Chinese people are easily entangled in the concept of "who is right and who is wrong about this matter" in the emotional world. Yingda said: There is no right or wrong between husband and wife. I am a believer in marriage and family, but sometimes I doubt whether a man and a woman can form a family. Men and women are two different animals, so it's strange to force them into a cage without any problems
To what extent does a person feel about the problem before making a decision to divorce?
In 2002, Yingda directed "Sports Family".
Yingda said, "I have been divorced twice, and my feelings have been different. I just feel that the situation at that time pushed people away, and it wasn't someone who could think and make a decision.
The two of them walked into the mechanism of collapse, completely involuntarily. At that time, the physiological conditions were all different from usual. When people were in the midst of divorce or suddenly fell in love, this stage could last for a few days, up to a year or two, and the secretion of adrenaline was completely different from usual. The few marriages and divorces that I can remember so far are characterized by palpitations, shortness of breath, and a certain level of excitement
We often hear a saying: the more men are separated, the more afraid they become, and the more women are separated, the greater their courage.
I think so, with this characteristic. Family life is very sacred and important, so I am very afraid of divorce, but I am not afraid of getting married
Shortly after divorcing Song Dandan, Yingda married Liang Huan, the sister of famous actor Liang Tian. Liang Huan is a highly talented student in the Chinese Department of Peking University, a famous talented woman who has been working with her brother Liang Zuo as a screenwriter for Yingda's comedies for many years.
Before their divorce from Song Dandan, their marriage had been talked about for many years and was a model for everyone, a model couple. Looking back, Yingda said, "Actually, in the past 10 years between Song Dandan and me, our shared private lives have been too few. Many things that shouldn't be said or even didn't mean to us have followed the media's instructions
After learning from this experience, Yingda has kept a low profile towards her current marriage, and Liang Huan has never appeared with Yingda in front of the media.
