Post Date December, 02 2023
What does it mean to fall in love with someone? Some people describe love as an emotion that, to some extent, is confused with happiness. But love is not just a common emotion, and it is not equal to happiness. Throughout history and culture, by witnessing the impact of love on people, researchers have defined love as consisting of the following four elements.
The beloved. Find a lover! You must have someone you love.
The feeling of walking with love. It could be sexual desire - or not.
Thinking born of love. You are considerate of your loved ones, being with them, what they are like, and so on.
The act or relationship of being with a loved one. Similarly, these may also be related to sexual desire -- or not.
Although the elements that make up love change with time and place, when people describe love, these elements are displayed in some form.
Now: Will love make you happy? After having a lover, will the thoughts, feelings, and actions that are taken for granted come with love? The evidence cannot be clearer. Although love makes you feel good, it can also make you feel slightly painful - not just during breakups. Falling in love not only makes you feel happy and joyful, but also makes you anxious and depressed. Happiness is not just a wonderful feeling, it is also filled with bad emotions. Research clearly shows that love is not equal to happiness.
Why does love make people sad and happy? Like all things that affect our senses, attention gives us the answer. The impact of love on happiness depends on how much energy we devote to love. When there are many uncertainties in love, it requires us to be fully focused and highly focused. Does she love me? Will he propose to me? What if her friend doesn't like me? With the person you love, with those negative uncertainties, mixed emotions can follow.
In addition, the longer you fall in love with someone, the more confused you will feel about their preferences. When people judge the design of a set of dinner plates, movies, and kitchens based on how much they think their partner likes them, the longer they spend together, the poorer their judgment. However, they are also increasingly assertive about themselves. When people first meet, they think their loved ones have the same preferences as theirs, but in reality, people's preferences change. Love can confuse us about our partner's preferences.
Love also makes it easier for us to break our promises to our loved ones. Research shows that people who believe they truly love their partner are more likely to break their vows to their loved ones, and they are also less likely to practice them. People with good self-control, leadership, and control, will urge those who do not love you the most to fulfill their vows to you. This is another reason that makes us sad and happy in love.
Therefore, although love is beautiful, it can also bring a lot of pain, create problems, negative uncertainties, mismatched hobbies, and broken vows. If you care about your own happiness, you should recognize the fact that love doesn't always make you happy. However, happiness is related to the success of your relationship. The happier people feel, the easier it is to get married. Research shows that the greater the happiness gap between spouses, the more likely they are to divorce. The most common is that a wife's happiness is lower than that of her husband. Rather than viewing love as a shortcut to happiness, it may be best to be happy with or without love. Then comes the love and unbreakable relationship.
