Post Date December, 03 2023
For the past six months, my wife has spent money to invite migrant workers to go to the sauna every week. The reputation is to open two rooms. In fact, they are all in the same bed. What's more surprising to me is that the migrant workers tend to be sexually abusive, that is, my wife is willing to be the sex slaves of the migrant workers.
I am a civil servant. In the past few years, I socialized a lot. Every time I came home drunk, my wife would complain. These years, I seem to have gotten used to my life state. Although I no longer fight because of my drinking, it seems that I have also been ignored a lot. Even when I did not socialize, my wife also sat in front of the computer to watch movies and TV dramas. The couple's life is very poor, because my wife would use 'Why do I want you drunk when I want to, Why should I cooperate when you want.
I always thought that my life condition led to my wife's apathy. If it wasn't for my wife to take the opportunity to go to the bathroom on the Internet once, and I was anxious to check the documents online, I couldn't find out that my wife took the opportunity to chat with netizens by watching TV and movies online.
Last Thursday night, my wife sat in front of the computer in the study as usual, the children were doing their homework in the living room, and I was lying on the sofa in the living room watching TV. At that time, my friend called and asked me to help write a file. I wanted to check the file mode online, and said to my wife that I wanted to use the computer. My wife said half an hour later. During this period, my wife went to the bathroom. I thought it would take me only one or two minutes to find what I wanted online. Unexpectedly, after I minimized the movies my wife watched, I saw her QQ flashing and opened it unintentionally, but it was some obscene chat records. For this reason, I locked the study door and let my wife who came out of the bathroom knock on the door.
I carefully read my wife's chat record. It turns out that my wife and a migrant worker have known each other for half a year. For the past six months, my wife will spend money to invite migrant workers to go to the sauna every week. In fact, they are all in the same bed. What's more surprising to me is that the migrant worker has a sexual abuse tendency. That is to say, my wife is willing to be the sex slave of the migrant worker.
After I basically understood the truth of the matter, I opened the door of the study angrily. My wife also knew that her absurd behavior had been detected by me. Instead of apologizing, she asked me what I wanted. To tell the truth, I really didn't know how to deal with this matter at that time. I just slapped my wife twice and went back to the bedroom. That night, I slept in the bedroom and my wife slept on the sofa in the living room.
These days, my wife and I are in a cold war, and I often sketch some dirty pictures of my wife and migrant workers together in my mind. Considering that my wife hasn't let me touch her in the last two or three months, I really don't know whether I should forgive my wife. I'm a bit confused now.
Reply:
The affairs of derailment happen every day. About the problem of men and women's derailment, we need to understand the following ten mentality:
Men's part:
1、 Most men like freedom, so married men usually miss the state before marriage. The freedom they want comes from their wife's nagging, as well as their wife's unreasonable and unreasonable behavior.
2、 Eighty percent of married men are eager for extramarital affairs. Most of them are simply looking for sexual stimulation, but a few of them are looking for a gentle mistress to experience the feeling of being a master.
3、 Seven out of ten married men will accept some social entertainment willingly or reluctantly for the sake of livelihood. They will be isolated if they refuse the invitation of friends or business contacts too much in fear.
4、 After a man's infidelity, as long as his wife gives him a step down, there is basically no possibility of becoming a regular junior, unless his wife is really unattractive and has no character.
Women's part:
5、 The most desirable thing for women in marriage is not only to control their own wages, but also to control their husband's work. In a survey on marital security, women's control of family finance ranks first in the sense of security. And because mastering family finance equals to having more voice in the family, that is, women often like to play the role of controller in marriage.
6、 The natural enemy of women is not the third, but loneliness, because even if the third appears, as long as the legal wife wants to kill the third, the third will basically raise his hand in desperation, on the one hand because of the third's guilty conscience, on the other hand because the third is basically a naive silly girl.
7、 There are two kinds of loneliness for women. One is emotional loneliness, which is injected into the marital status of the husband who has chosen to drink and eat after work all the year round or to travel all the year round. In this case, women will seek spiritual comfort through various forms, and occasionally have a one-night stand; Another kind of loneliness of a woman is sexual loneliness, or her husband is cold, or her husband has sex for a short time, or her husband's little JJ is like a golden needle mushroom, which will make her infatuate and yearn for the man in bed.
8、 In fact, it is more difficult for women than men to forget the opposite sex that gives her happiness. Therefore, there will be some scenes where married women with good money will pay for their extramarital lovers. But if a woman wants to marry such a poor man, she will not agree to it.
Common parts:
9、 Couples who have sex for a long time, whether from the visual or behavioral point of view, will have a fatigue. For this reason, once the time for external temptation is ripe, there will be a one-night stand, and the two major factors that lead to the development of one-night stand into multi-night stand or become a lover relationship include: material completion or genital completion. For material completion, it is clear at a glance. For genital completion, it mainly includes women's flirtatiousness, men's size and frequency, and even heavy taste and love.
10、 Emotion will eventually return to the rational part. The quarrel in the first ten years of marriage, on the one hand, stems from the run-in of life patterns, on the other hand, from the confusion of other members of the family, on the other hand, from too many ideas about life when young. For this reason, marriage will eventually go on the track of insipid adherence after several divorces. The key is that once people are over 45 years old, they will have extramarital affairs, interpersonal relationships The desire for money will gradually fade, instead, it is to cherish the integrity of marriage.
In view of the above situation, to analyze your wife's infidelity, two words can be summarized, that is' loneliness'. The advice for you is: try to forgive, choose some necessary entertainment, and the couple should not be shy but convey their real needs.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
