My husband is too rude. I'm afraid of having sex. He used cheating to vent my anger. I proposed a divorce

Five years ago, my husband and I got married after meeting and falling in love. After getting married, we had a very comfortable life. He often went on business trips, and sometimes our separation lasted for many days. Fortunately, both of us were outgoing and with the arrival of our children, I didn't feel bored in life. "When he comes back from a business trip, he always brings me small gifts, local specialties, and some small ornaments. To be honest, I really like this kind of life.". But as my husband's body gained weight, my nightmare also came.

When he first got married, he only weighed 130 pounds, was 178 inches tall, had a standard figure, and looked good in any clothes he wore. Over the past few years, he has been running around for entertainment, and his beer belly has come out. His weight is also growing rapidly. As he approaches 180, he looks so bloated. "I'm not saying this because I dislike him for being fat. Many of my friends around me are putting on weight after marriage, and there's nothing strange about him doing this.". "The scary thing is that since he gained weight, his brute force has also increased. When couples have sex, they don't even know how to be gentle, and their rough behavior disgusts me so much.".

He likes traditional sex between men and women, and he feels that this has a sense of superiority. Every time he reaches the peak, his body is like a kart with nitrogen added, growing faster and faster. He keeps groping his hands around me, causing me pain. When I am almost finished, his habitual hands wrap around me, pressing me almost to suffocate. After finishing, he stretched himself exhausted on the bed, saying nothing, too lazy to even wear his underwear. "He is very sleepy, and my entire body is caught red by him. My chest also feels stuffy, without any drowsiness at all.".

Later, he was promoted, and the frequency of business trips became lower. It should have been a happy thing, but I didn't feel a bit excited. I couldn't wait for him to travel, and I fell clean. "I'm afraid of having sex with him, and every time his desire comes, I use various excuses to refuse. By midnight, he can't hold on, and that kind of thing still happens.". "For the sake of harmony in life, I have always endured it, and even when I cannot bear it, I will argue with him and scold him for being too barbaric regardless of my feelings.". Instead, he scolded me for being abnormal and said, 'You should like barbarism, which proves that I love me enough.'.

In the end, I couldn't resist him, so I had to simply cooperate and make him have a hundred opinions, saying that I was like a piece of wood, making him feel nothing. "Because I have too much resentment, when I am angry, I can say anything. Finally, he stopped touching me, and I secretly rejoice.". I overlooked that men need to be released to control their lower body. Two months ago, he went to a bar with a friend and met a barmaid. One to two, he cheated.

"Although I hate him, I can't let go of the taste of betrayal. I filed for a divorce, and the child belongs to him in my house.". He said he was sorry for me and the child, and he agreed to whatever I asked. I couldn't help crying after his words, and he accompanied me to tears. After that, when I divorced, I didn't mention it again, and he didn't ask me. Life went on like this, and he severed himself from the women outside, and more importantly, he no longer forced me to have sex. However, all of this can't go back to the past, living under the same roof, but without the happy atmosphere of the past. In such a family, I don't know how long I can persist. What should I do?

Reply from the maintenance consultant:

Hello. Couple sex is an important link to maintain marital harmony. Your husband's domineering behavior makes you unable to accept it, even creating a sense of disgust. This situation is not resolved through timely communication. Over the long term, he has become a habit, while you become increasingly passive. If your husband consistently rejects you, doesn't cooperate, doesn't pay attention, or snubs you, how would you feel? Hormonal arousal can lead to irrational behavior by one partner, such as her husband's cheating today.

Sex is innate, and no matter how you view it, it is indispensable in our lives. Respect for the life of a husband and wife is equal to respect for your other half. Therefore, you need to find the reason for your prejudice against it and learn to channel yourself to accept it. The reason for your fear is that your husband is too brutal. Therefore, you should communicate with him, regulate the harmony of your sexual affairs, and tell him what you want in your heart. Only when couples have a harmonious sexual relationship can they better maintain their marriage. "If your current state does not change, if it continues, your marriage will only disintegrate and not make much progress.".