Post Date December, 03 2023
Nowadays, people in society are restless, and the reason for this is often because the material development covers up the spiritual emptiness. Many people live without themselves, always living in the eyes and world of others. So much so that they always examine their marriage based on external standards.
Although I have been very happy, I have experienced frequent marital problems and even extramarital affairs due to comparison, dissatisfaction, ambition, and greed. When there are scars in marriage, it is up to oneself to guard it, and how to adjust one's mentality is the key.
Firstly, find reasons to reassure oneself.
Sometimes the reason why we can't calm down is because we don't have strong confidence ourselves. If you can understand that a person's life is actually about themselves, and you cannot always demand yourself based on others' standards.
To find oneself, rather than constantly changing oneself through the eyes of others, when you can make yourself feel at ease, you will also find a shortcut to happiness. In this life, we may seem to live in a crowd, but in reality, our hearts are always filled with contradictions. We are always full of ambition, but instead we neglect the most basic happiness.
Many people struggle for their entire lives, while many play for their entire lives. However, their hearts are both impoverished and desolate, and the reason for this is because they have never found a reason to rest assured. Therefore, it can also release one's own unhappiness and pressure to the loved one, resulting in numerous crises in the marriage.
Secondly, we need to unify the joy of life with the value of life.
Many people compare marriage to the imprisonment and pain of life. The reason for this is that one is always covered up by trivial things. I can't help but bring the negative energy of life.
In such a situation, one may not find the value of life and instead place hope outside of their family. So it triggered unnecessary emotions, causing irreparable embarrassment to one's marriage.
After experiencing these things, you will understand that life is out of ten unhappy, but it is important to ignore the unpleasant things in order to focus on the pleasures and be entitled to enjoy them.
Once again, use interest to release your stress, rather than complaining.
Many people often use complaints to represent their dissatisfaction with life. In fact, complaining is often like poison. Once a habit is formed, one cannot be calm. And some of the anger increases as you raise it.
Especially when the lover is sullen, you can only make yourself more angry. Instead of letting the other person coax you, it's better to cultivate an interest, whether it's gardening or reading, whether it's music or sports. These will at least give your soul a place to stay and make you feel happy. Not pain and meaningless.
Complaining often backfires. Only by calming down and cultivating one's personality can one withstand the hardships of reality. You should know that no family is perfect, and the happiness you see may not be as good as what you see.
Many people tear apart a second after a second of love. So, learn to precipitate yourself. Life is inherently impermanent, treating all misfortunes as cosmetic happiness. In this way, one will stick to their original choice.
