Post Date December, 03 2023
My wife and I have been married for 17 years and have been in a relationship for 22 years. Our relationship has always been very good. She is obsessed with the internet and has fallen in love with it. Last month, she went to see her netizen and they divorced, so we may live together.
She has been away for 2 months, and couldn't be reached for a month. She turned off the phone and now she has given up our home. We have a son of 17, and the child cannot contact her. Does she have a son in her heart?
She said she asked me to wait for her for a while, but I'm afraid after a while, what will happen to her? I don't want to lose her for the sake of my family. Can she still come back? What should I do?
reply:
Hello, many times, relationships may not withstand the test of time, because people have a heart that is not willing to be lonely. After 17 years of plain marriage, your wife is tired of her current life and yearns for freshness and excitement in her heart. Therefore, she is addicted to the temptation of online dating. Your wife may also know that she is momentarily obsessed, but rationality cannot overcome impulse. Therefore, she asked you to wait for her for a period of time. On the one hand, it is to satisfy your desire to hang out with netizens, and on the other hand, it may also be a delaying strategy. It is necessary to consider whether to further develop into an object of empathy with netizens. It's your business if you don't want to lose her, it's her business if she wants to leave you. If she still cares about you and her son, there will naturally be a day when she comes back. If her heart is no longer with you, what you do may be in vain. I personally think that many women's sudden change of heart is the result of being frozen three feet in a day. Emotions are things that are not maintained in daily life, and it is too passive to make up for them when problems arise. At this point, in addition to waiting for her return with your son Jing, you also need to reflect on your marriage itself, see which link made her dissatisfied, and ultimately choose to have romantic relationships with strangers. If you can find the root cause of the problem yourself and make corrections, you may still have the possibility of surviving after she returns. If you don't make adjustments, the problem still cannot be solved. In middle age, your wife suddenly has a second spring. Perhaps she has been suppressed for too long, or her nature has been revealed. If you don't want to give up, you can only choose to accept.
