Post Date December, 02 2023
In some marriage relationships, many feelings of men begin to decline on the wedding day. So why do men have marriage phobia?
In front of the cruel reality, many men and women stop outside marriage and dare not step into marriage, for fear that entering the besieged city will ruin their years of sweet love and their happiness. When you are in love, you are only faced with the pure love of two people, and marriage is simply a "game" between two families.
Marriage was originally a great joy, but in some ways it was a "torture" for the groom and his family. From the decoration of the new house, to the preparation of the wedding, to the wedding ceremony, many aspects were borne by the man. If you are lucky to meet a nice woman's family, you will suffer if you meet a picky one.
Just married, men tend to have resistance. This is not childish and irresponsible, but a normal inner impulse. Many families, especially in China, once a man is in his twenties, his family begins to urge him to marry. This is the beginning of forming a fear of marriage for men, because they feel that their ideas about marriage are not mature yet, but they are urged by their parents to make themselves more resistant to marriage under pressure.
In some marriage relationships, many feelings of young men begin to go downhill on the day of marriage. They will be nervous, anxious and at a loss, so they want to escape from reality. Originally, stepping into marriage from reality would make people feel at a loss to a certain extent, while the family and friends around him would make a vague concept or explanation of his inner thoughts, which would make him feel nameless guilt and fear.
Although after the marriage, I found that I was not so afraid after the discussion, but it also affected the feelings of both parties because of the psychological fear that began before and after marriage.
Men's attitudes and psychological characteristics are significantly different in love and after marriage. In love, men always form a feeling that women are weak, so they will generally care for women. Women also show dependence and appear to be weak because they are always taught by the idea of "don't be too active with the men you like".
However, when the wife prepares meals and cooks bath water for her husband happily for a period of time after marriage, the husband may naturally take it for granted. If one day there is no such thing, he will ask in doubt: "Why didn't you boil the bath water today?" In his opinion, "I work, you eat", which is already a pattern.
Until one day, his wife would ask, "Have a meal outside occasionally." He would start to mutter in his heart: "You are really a wasteful person.", "I am really confused to find such a lazy person." Men marry mostly by trusting a realistic principle.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
