Post Date April, 15 2023
Men are afraid of green hats
In fact, from a psychological perspective, this is a hidden "sense of instability" in a man's heart. Let's colloquially call it "green hat phobia". This "instability" is a fear of what happens to his wife behind his back. Research has shown that women trust their husbands far more than men trust their wives. This is consistent with real life - men can reasonably stay out all night drinking and playing mahjong, and coax women away, which is often not the case with men and women.
I once saw a case where a couple announced the dissolution of their marriage after three years of marriage. The reason for the divorce was that the husband had extreme distrust of his wife. As soon as the wife went out, the husband would check her underwear. If he found that there were too many secretions, he would investigate them thoroughly and pursue them vigorously. Living in a tense atmosphere of suspicion for a long time, the strings of marriage finally broke before a person's nerves broke.
Sexual behavior is a monopolistic psychology
Having sexual behavior inevitably leaves a large amount of secretions on his underwear. This husband's "virginity testing method" can be described as straightforward, but he forgot that the increase in female lower body secretions stems from many aspects, including sexual activity (including sexual imagination), gynecological diseases, and intense physical activity. "Secretions" have become a "surrogate" for his distrust mentality, forming a psychological cycle of "secretions"="cheating.". There is also a typical behavior of "suspected wife" - showing a strong aversion to the men around their wives. Colleagues, classmates, friends, and even relatives who are male and have a high frequency of getting along, especially if their wives have a lot of opportunities to mention them, will put them on a "black list", carry this "black list", accumulate depression and become "green hat phobia," and spend time researching and arranging the frequency of contact between their wives and these "suspicious objects," "The venue and time have been on high alert and alert for a long time, and I always feel that there is something like that, but I always cannot grasp the handle.".
The Extension of the Virgo Complex
There are many reasons for this distrust, but it can be summarized into several types: First, due to the "virgin complex", when the wife gets married, she "seems to be out of place", or it is very clear that she is not her first lover; Second, remarried couples, both of whom have a marriage history and varying degrees of "re love experience"; "The third is the inferiority complex, which is usually caused by the extroverted personality of the woman, who is much more likely to make a difference in her career and work than the man, and there is a phenomenon that women are stronger and men are weaker."; The fourth is hearsay. I am troubled by special examples around me. I heard that a certain woman has such an experience, and I am always wary of my own people. Here, I say, these are unhealthy attitudes.
As the saying goes, "Heart disease requires heart medicine," and "Solving a problem requires a person to tie the bell." Trust comes from the purity of the feelings of both parties, and also depends on the "calmness" of the individual's heart. There is a "hallucinatory" inference that can be referenced - you say there is it, and you say there is nothing without it, so why not infer that there is nothing?
Animal trainers in zoos can still reach a tacit understanding with beasts. Why can't they have more trust with their legal spouses?
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
