Post Date December, 03 2023
Today was a "black weekend" for Xiao Hong. She got angry with her male colleagues in the office and had another argument with her husband when she came home from work. Xu Wen in the office and Xiao Hong's husband are classmates and friends, so Xiao Hong has a good understanding of Xu Wen's background. In the morning, chatting in the office, colleagues all praised Xu Wen for fully supporting his wife in her tour guide work, and taking on the heavy responsibility of household chores and educating children. She can be called a "model husband". Just as Xu Wen was cheering everyone up, Xiao Hong half jokingly said, "Is hitting his wife also considered a standard for a model husband? A few days ago, his wife even came to my house for shelter!" This sentence surprised everyone, while Xu Wen became angry with embarrassment and shouted, "Nonsense!" After that, he kept his face taut all day and didn't greet Xiao Hong when he met.
Xiaohongwo, filled with anger, returned home and complained to her husband, "Xu Wen has been promoted to the position of section chief, and what about you? Are you even more cowardly than him?" "Yes, I admit that I am a person without skills," the husband said a bit angrily. You are just so ungrateful, you will never prosper. Following you, this coward, will make me look bad at others! "Xiao Hong said angrily.
You're really unreasonable! You're just messing around and pestering me... "The husband seemed unbearable, patting the table and scolding Xiao Hong loudly. Xiao Hong was criticized by two men in one day, not to mention anything else, mainly because she accidentally violated the man's psychological forbidden zone. From a psychological perspective, people often have a psychological forbidden zone deep down due to differences in physiological, psychological, and social experiences. Different people have different psychological forbidden zones and varying levels of sensitivity. Although men are stronger than women, they also have a fragile side. There are some topics that they are the least willing to talk about or bring up. Women should understand some psychology, whether it is working with men at work or staying at home with their husbands, they should understand men's psychological avoidance. This is an essential content for women's friendship, love, and even career success. If you accidentally step on a man's "minefield", you will be as unpleasant as Xiao Hong today. The common sense of psychology tells us that men are often particularly sensitive to certain words related to their own evaluation, to the point of disgust. Therefore, regarding the following topics regarding men, women must be very careful to avoid getting into an awkward situation.
Don't ridicule him for being timid and cowardly. Some men are timid, and sometimes they are scared to death or cry bitterly. This secret of a man can be observed by a woman with her keen and attentive eyes. But please don't mock him in person. If you expose this secret, he will hate you for damaging his masculine image.
Don't criticize his appearance. Men rarely compliment their physical appearance, it's not so much because they are shy, it's more because they lack confidence. If you praise his appearance, he will have a positive attitude towards his body, confidence, and more composure in participating in social activities. But if your evaluation is not so favorable to him, it will make him feel inferior and even lead to strong anger, which cannot be underestimated in men.
Don't praise another man's achievements in front of him. Men are naturally competitive and never give up. Many men often envy another man's success. If a person, especially a woman, admires another man's achievements in front of him, it will make him think he has been looked down upon, and you are intentionally belittling him.
Don't talk about his failure. For most men, not being considered a failure by others is already considered 'success'. Here, success is not measured by winning, but simply by' not failing '. The reason why most men are satisfied with "not failing" is because they acknowledge in their hearts that true success is rare. Talking about his failure inevitably makes him angry at times.
Don't talk about his role in the family. Although he is very open-minded, gentle and considerate towards his wife, and diligent in household chores, men subconsciously believe that being gentle and doing household chores undermines the dignity of men.
Don't ridicule men's sexual impotence. Among all the taboos men avoid, sexual impotence (such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, small penis, etc.) is the biggest taboo. Once a man experiences any sexual activity and hears gossip from others, even a strong man will become fragile. Produce uncontrollable sexual distress, confusion, and fear.
