Post Date December, 02 2023
My husband and I have been together for six years, and our child is two years old. I think I am filial to my mother-in-law. If there is anything I can do to keep them from getting tired, and I set up a stall to do small business, giving money to my mother-in-law every day! Because the stall was previously operated by my mother-in-law, I have taken it over since she underwent an operation!
I do a lot of work every day, such as setting up a stall during the day, going home to do laundry and household chores at night, and sleeping with my children at night. Every night I work until 10 or 11 o'clock, and my husband never says to help me with it. He thinks he's more tired than me. Moreover, every time I get angry from her parents, he won't help me when I tell him!
My mother-in-law said to me that I have never spoken up, just afraid he might be in trouble in the middle, but he never thinks for me! Since I had a child and never went out to play, there was once when I went out to eat with him and he said he had to go home at nine o'clock, and I instantly lost my mood! Because he goes out to play ball every night, and every time he goes to dinner with friends, he never says what time he must go home. Every time it's after twelve o'clock, he only has his parents and my son in his heart, but not me. I am a free nanny in his family, and I feel so tired. What should I do?
reply:
Marriage is not for complaining, but for managing. Admittedly, everyone will inevitably be wronged in one way or another in marriage. At this time, an outlet and a place for roast will be needed to dilute the imbalance and depression accumulated in the heart, which I understand.
As a woman, it's not easy to work at home. For example, if you need to set up a stall, you need to be busy going out early and returning late, making little money, but it's very hard. When you come back at night, you also have to do laundry and household chores. These trivial tasks may seem insignificant, but if you repeat them every day, they can also be very torturous. But there's no way, this is life.
Actually, I know you're not complaining about life itself, but about how you met a husband who couldn't understand you. The pain in your heart comes from not receiving a husband who knows both cold and hot. Even if he can help you with a little household chores, even if he can give you a simple hug when you return home, even if he can give you a little comfort when you are wronged. And these things you have never obtained, for which you feel aggrieved and exhausted in this home, feel like you have nowhere to complain, lament that you have become a nanny and do not have the minimum family status.
In fact, for a woman to live a dignified and valued life in marriage, it is not by meeting a good husband, but often by being the best of herself. A good husband is often supported by his own quality. A woman, if you are excellent enough, you don't have to worry about being ignored by your own man; If you are strong enough in your heart, you are not afraid of your man being cold to you; If you are capable and capable enough, your man will not dare to give you any advice or advice. So, in the final analysis, women need to build their core competitiveness, constantly strive for self-improvement, be mentally and economically independent, not be submissive or weak in their behavior, have bottom lines and principles in their work, and have ways and methods to manage relationships. Only in this way can they achieve the goal of not losing in love.
