Post Date December, 03 2023
The conclusion drawn from years of analysis of domestic cases of extramarital affairs shows that the main reasons for the formation of extramarital affairs are as follows:
1. Life is lonely and monotonous
If married life makes people feel disappointed and dissatisfied, many people will seek other ways or stimuli to achieve psychological satisfaction and balance. For example, marital life can make people feel lonely and bored, and couples lack intimacy and cannot bring joy to each other's lives. At this point, a third party, extramarital love, has an opportunity to take advantage of it. Especially for couples who have been separated for a long time, seeing other people's couples in pairs with sweet love can inevitably lead to feelings of loss and imbalance in their hearts, making it easy to find other 'gentle villages'.
Another situation is that marital life is too monotonous and lacks novelty. Every day is the same thing, the same lifestyle, and at this time, emotions can easily become dull and tasteless, and life is not much fun. In this situation, the novel stimulation of extramarital love is more likely to highlight, capture people's hearts, and make their attachment unable to extricate themselves.
2. Emotional discord
The relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of marriage, and if the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, it can easily lead to various problems in marriage.
If there is a long-term lack of communication and emotional discord between couples, they are more likely to accept other temptations or seek other emotional comfort to seek emotional compensation.
3. Discord in interests
Some couples are already very good emotionally, but over time, they find that they do not share the same interests. For example, the wife likes dancing, while the husband only likes playing cards; My husband loves literature and art, but my wife has a particular fondness for fashion trends; The wife has lofty ideals, but the husband is content with the status quo; The husband works hard, but the wife is not ambitious. These differences in interests, hobbies, and aspirations have led to a growing lack of common language and a serious inconsistency in their pace. If you encounter a "close friend" outside at this time, it is easy to get into an extramarital relationship.
4. Sexual disharmony
This is also one of the main reasons for the occurrence of extramarital affairs. If marriage does not have a harmonious sexual life, it is impossible to maintain it. Even if both parties have a good relationship, how many people can live a lifetime of Platonic love life? At this point, an extramarital affair seems inevitable.
5. Enjoy the new and dislike the old
Some people are very difficult to determine, especially when it comes to emotional issues. It's easy to see someone loving someone, and in the end, they don't know who they love. If this situation occurs before marriage, it may be understandable, but once married, one must take responsibility for their partner and family. This mindset of liking the new and hating the old, coupled with the unsatisfactory life after marriage, can change even if the person they marry is their "favorite".
Because old lovers often highlight their shortcomings, while new lovers often highlight their strengths, comparing the strengths of others with the weaknesses of their own lovers will naturally make their own lovers much inferior, and extramarital affairs are inevitable.
6. Negative impact of media
Many movies, TV dramas, books, and other works reflect the phenomenon of extramarital love, but the focus of their descriptions may not always be on the negative effects of extramarital love, or on exaggerating the phenomenon of extramarital love among celebrities, which makes people feel strange and not surprising. They also copy it from their own lives, causing many family and marriage problems.
Recognizing the causes of extramarital love mentioned above, let's take a look at the dangers of extramarital love. One is to endanger one's physical and mental health, causing serious mental stress and unsolvable troubles. The second is to endanger the physical and mental health of family members. Extramarital love can cause extremely severe psychological trauma to loved ones and children. The third is endangering society. Extramarital love leads to many conflicts and even causes many social problems, leading to an increase in crime rates.
Therefore, addressing the issue of extramarital affairs is something that society and every family should do. To maintain the harmony, beauty, and happiness of the family, it is necessary to put the other party at the center, consider everything more for the other party, strengthen communication and understanding with the other party, make life more interesting, and enable both spouses to find satisfaction and balance in their marriage. In this way, both parties can effectively lift their psychological barriers; Avoid extramarital affairs.
In addition, the whole society should vigorously promote a normal marriage order, condemn extramarital affairs, crack down on this unhealthy trend, and make the parties aware of the wrongfulness of extramarital affairs and have a sense of guilt. This will make extramarital affairs have no breeding ground and a land for growth.
