Post Date April, 15 2023
Under the same eaves, after tea and dinner, we watched TV and movies together, occasionally smiling knowingly, with a hint of tenderness in our eyes; Even if each person does their own thing, it still has its own flavor. The footsteps of walking around while doing housework, the sighs of reading at the desk, and the sound of typing on the keyboard at work all make me feel your presence, which is a force that makes me feel at ease.
If a person cannot stay at home and runs away all year round; When one sees the other person, they become annoyed and say a few words as if taking gunpowder. How can such a couple get along well?
My colleague Xiaomi once told me about an embarrassing experience she experienced when she went to her husband's house:
Every time I take my child to my mother-in-law's house, I greet her in advance. That time, I took my child to the Children's Palace and temporarily suspended classes. I thought I would be idle and close to my grandmother's house, so I took the child over.
It happened to be summer, and as soon as I reached the entrance of the fourth floor, I heard intense arguments coming from the sixth floor. It seems like grandma and grandpa had an argument, "said the baby. I'm embarrassed there, I don't know how to handle it.
Later, I told the baby that I didn't bring a gift and went downstairs to buy fruit. I called my mother-in-law and then went over again. This time, the father-in-law cut iced watermelons for the baby, and the mother-in-law went to the kitchen to arrange meals. They were busy and peaceful, completely without the battlefield they had just heard of.
My husband said that his parents always argue, but as long as he is at home, he doesn't argue anymore. Previously, I used to revolve around my husband, but later when I had a baby, I revolved around the baby.
If the mother-in-law is still nagging, the father-in-law will say, 'What are you doing with the child here?'. Oh, I really don't know how these two of you spent their entire lives!
Clearly, the most core and important thing in a family is the relationship between the couple, and one cannot adjust the distance between them, only focusing on their children.
Live your life as a child and sing a duet around your child, and neither of you will learn to be alone until you grow old. Such a family atmosphere can nurture high-quality marriage relationships, which is truly a miracle.
When Lao Gao got married, we went to have a wedding banquet and mocked him for saying "old cows eat tender grass" because the bride was eighteen years younger than Lao Gao. Later on, the two of them had a pleasant and pleasant life, with smooth winds and smooth waters.
A few years later, at a gathering, Lao Gao revealed his truth after drinking:
I know back then, everyone kindly advised me that she was too young to live together. But, you know what? We were together, watching TV, drinking tea, and chatting. We accidentally passed away all afternoon and all night, without knowing how to get by.
Speaking, especially being able to talk together, I thought at the time, okay, it had to be her. Until now, they are still together, never feeling bored, always feeling like they have something to say.
Being able to talk together always feels like there is something to say, which is the most common manifestation of a comfortable marital relationship.
It's easy to say, but troublesome to do. Among them, there are several essential elements: willingness to speak, willingness to listen, having a topic, and having a common perspective. Having such a life partner and living a life without any surprises is not a simple blessing.
