Plato or the gold worshippers? 10 Different Psychologies of Male Marriage and Female Marriage

There is a saying that every night at twelve o'clock, if you can stand in front of a mirror and cut a complete apple with a knife before the clock strikes twelve, you can see your person (her) in the mirror.

Since God extracted a rib from Adam's body and created Eve, there have been stories of love in this world. There is a song called "Hand in Hand", "Because I love you, because I suffer your pain, so I am sad about your sadness, happy about your happiness. On the path of life, most of us need to find our other half. In life, there may be many or only one you love, but each time you should be serious and devoted.

If one day, on the street, I suddenly see a face, although it is a strange face, just like in "Dream of the Red Chamber" when Jia Baoyu first met Lin Daiyu, it seems like a previous life agreement was made, and in this life, we will continue our relationship. Your heart knows it's him or her, but will your personality make you step forward and say a simple 'hello' to him or her?

One day, when you are playing with a friend of the opposite sex, if you suddenly feel that feeling, that feeling that only comes once in a lifetime, will you seriously tell them your true feelings?

Everyone has an ideal lover in their heart, whether they admit it or not. Although sometimes people themselves are not very clear about what kind of character they like, there is always a rough outline. Men usually pay more attention to each other's appearance, which is also human nature. Who is willing to bring home a ferocious looking MM?

Appearance is very important, and body shape must also be maintained. This is the first consideration for an average man. Of course, as a woman, just these two points are not enough. She must also be gentle, not to mention like Wang Yuyan, but at least reflect the characteristics of a woman.

In today's society, due to the higher employment rate of women, more and more men do not pay much attention to the traditional female skills of each other, such as needlework and cooking skills. However, women who "make a living in the kitchen, make a living in the hall" are always popular. Putting themselves in the shoes of others, even if a chef's cooking skills are superb, they still hope that their wife can cook a few small dishes, after all, the family is a man's safe haven.

Due to various physiological and psychological differences between men and women, as well as various social influences, the psychological state of mate selection is very different. In addition to the inevitable differences between the two genders, even same-sex individuals may have differences.

So the psychology of choosing a spouse is not a simple type of psychology. It is often complex and intertwined with multiple psychological states. However, like blood type, we can also classify it based on a certain psychological tendency.

Generally speaking, this complex mate selection psychology depends on a person's outlook on life, love, values, etc. Here, they can only be artificially discussed separately.

(1) Career oriented

In fact, not only men, but also women are willing to value this point. Everyone hopes that their partner can be a pillar of talent now, or one day eventually become a great talent, stand out in work and career, and become an elite figure. But not everyone can become God's favorite and reach the pinnacle of success, so men and women with this mentality often have greater hopes and greater disappointments.

At present, there are not many people who have this mentality of choosing a spouse, usually intellectuals. They view work performance and career achievements as the greatest happiness in life, and regard the other party's lack of ambition and fighting spirit as an important weight on the balance of choosing a spouse. They place the happiness of love in the struggle of their career. This kind of love is eternal due to the eternal nature of the cause, but it is also not acceptable to ordinary people.

⑵ Platonic type

A typical mate selection mentality that pursues spiritual satisfaction. With the progress of society and the improvement of people's cultural quality, there are more and more people with this kind of mate selection mentality. The difference between the same career type is that they focus on the other party's thoughts and emotions, moral qualities, personality and hobbies, etc; The pursuit is mutual spiritual communication and emotional harmony. As long as one can enjoy and satisfy oneself spiritually, even if the other party's financial conditions, physical condition, and other aspects are not good, it doesn't matter. This kind of love based on the spirit is noble, and many love stories that are passed down as beautiful stories stem from the pursuit of this love psychology.

⑶ Money oriented

Although society has reached a certain level of economic development, this type of mate selection psychology is still quite common, especially in economically underdeveloped areas. They prioritize each other's financial situation, and their marriage is to obtain a comfortable place to eat, wear, live, and play, or to rely on for survival. This kind of marriage based on material and financial foundations is not reliable because economic conditions can be changed. It often loses the attraction to unite the hearts of the two people due to the loss of favorable material conditions, and has to go their separate ways.

(4) Political marriage type

This mentality of choosing a spouse was quite common in feudal society, as they established their official career through marriage or consolidated nepotism in the officialdom, known as political alliances. Although this kind of mate selection mentality is not common nowadays, there are still many people who use it to make a profit. They do not pay attention to the emotional and psychological compatibility of the two, let alone any confidants, and prioritize the hidden motives behind marriage in love. This kind of love is equally unreliable.

Appearance

A large part of those who hold this mentality are young people. Of course, everyone wants their partner to be more beautiful and handsome, which is human nature. However, if they blindly pursue this kind of appearance beauty, they often go astray. Love that arises from the other person's beautiful appearance is fleeting. As time goes by, love will also disappear with the aging of appearance. As Goethe said, "Beauty in appearance can only please for a moment, but beauty in heart can last forever

(6) Perfect type

Some people set a series of standards in advance when selecting objects, with many rules and regulations. Anything that does not meet one or two points, even if other aspects are satisfactory, is not considered. People with this mate selection mentality are mostly young first-time lovers, but this psychological state often leads them to become older young people.

(7) Gaming type

There are only a few people who hold this mentality. They play with other people's emotions under the name of love, using the phrase 'not caring about eternity, only about what they once had'. They are constantly changing and seeking flowers and willows. Their outlook on life and love is decadent, and as a result, they cannot truly enjoy true love even in a lifetime of confusion.

As the saying goes, 'When the forest grows, there are all kinds of birds.'. What kind of person will have what kind of mentality,. The psychology of choosing a partner for men and women is diverse, and each person can have different psychology of choosing a partner from others. It is precisely: those who communicate with others through profit, those who make the most of it will disperse, those who communicate with others through color, those who decline in color will disperse, and those who communicate with their hearts can be eternal.