Post Date December, 03 2023
Wishing women purity is just a narcissistic desire from men
Talking about such a topic can easily be seen as someone who has a deep hatred in this regard. So let's make a few statements first. Like almost all male compatriots, I am not very satisfied with the fact that my favorite woman did not only want to hang herself from my own tree. Therefore, there are both "bitterness" and "hatred", but neither "bitterness" nor "hatred" is yet large and deep enough to require punishment on the female population here. Talking about this topic is only out of interest in the psychological phenomena in human sexual relations, rather than seeking personal revenge.
When I was in college, several hardcore buddies chatted and talked about other same-sex friends we both knew. A male classmate with a thick physique and excellent artistic talent said seriously, 'If I were a woman, there would be a few men who must marry, and if I don't marry, I will regret it for a lifetime.'. Then they listed a long list of names, and those men had different beauties and personalities, but one thing in common was that they were all very interesting people. According to the different attractiveness of each person, the length of time he wants to marry them varies, ranging from three months to one year. Listening to his whimsical ideas, our jaw joint laughed out of joint, while also imagining, if I were a woman myself, how many men would I want to marry? After a moment's thought, the number of people is no longer below ten.
Occasionally, I read about a woman from a certain country getting married many times in the fancy news of a newspaper, but none of the women I know around me do so. People who have been married three times are already very rare. This indicates that although our female compatriots are as promiscuous as men, they also know how to control their behavior at the level of moderation.
Men can be narcissistic because of this, because this example shows that it is the different cuteness of different men that leads to women's narcissism. With the progress of the times, the phrase 'there are too many temptations in the world' is no longer just a warning to men. However, whenever a woman uses this sentence to remind herself or other women, my feeling is still a bit strange, just like hearing a delicious dish say that I really care who tastes it. I know this is related to my inner male chauvinism, which is characterized by ignoring or denying women's basic needs and believing that women have no active choice but only passive obedience.
Conservatism limits women's rights
We continue to use food as an analogy. The question of whether a man is too cute or a woman is too flirtatious, and whether the food is too delicious or the diner is too delicious (the first 'good' is an adverb, pronounced in the third tone; the second 'good' is a verb, pronounced in the fourth tone) is a question of the same level. If we continue to compare, it will eventually come down to the question of whether there were chickens or eggs first. Fortunately, we all have a standard answer to this type of question, which is mutual causality and complementarity, without any priority at all.
Nietzsche said that the only goodwill exhibited by nature in creating humans is that in a male female relationship, men and women each meet their own needs while being able to bring benefits to each other. The words were extremely brilliant, including insight and affirmation of the needs of women, which is vastly different from the derogatory words he once said about women. But some men who do not understand the needs of women may believe that the relationship between men and women is a relationship where men bully women. If a woman actively wants to have any relationship with a man in this situation, then it is something wrong with the woman. Such men may dislike women who are too proactive, but we know that this feeling of disgust is caused by their own narrowness and ignorance. Unfortunately, women from the old era, or some modern women with old perspectives, would agree with this idea. The fear of "losing out" in a relationship with a man, or the belief that a normal effort is losing out, is the result of such erroneous beliefs. The direct result is that they limit their right and ability to pursue happiness, and excessively worry about gains and losses in male female relationships.
The saying 'Hunan women are affectionate' is a relatively ancient one. I attended high school in Hunan and have also dealt with some Hunan girls since I started working. I don't think this statement is really deceptive. I remember going to Hunan to attend an academic conference once. Before leaving, several Xiang girls who had only known each other for two days all wanted to take me to the station and help me with my luggage, expressing their feelings of parting as both direct and appropriate. That scene still feels warm when I think of it now. I would never believe that they were doing that because they were personally "interested" in me. My feeling is that there is a female trait in their basic attitude towards people, which is their attention, love, and interest in others, especially men. If this is a romantic relationship, then I hope the more women there are, the better. If every woman is only affectionate and shy towards her fixed partner, while men are cold and frosty towards her, then the world is really going to be deserted.
Only repressed men like chastity memorial archway
Men still prefer women who are more promiscuous in nature. Men are a very narcissistic animal, and they like women who are interested in them. On the surface, men have always been looking for women they like, but in reality, what they need more is women who are interested in themselves. A woman with a romantic personality has a basic interest in all men, and this interest is an irresistible charm for men.
There are also men who do not like women who are promiscuous, but I am sure that at least some (but not all) of them suppress their desires. Because the charm of such a woman induces his desires, and he himself does not allow himself to have such desires, he produces a feeling of disgust to keep himself at a distance from desires. This kind of psychological problem can also be manifested in other aspects of him, such as the feeling he gives people may be a person who does not love life; In terms of interpersonal relationships, one may be very demanding towards oneself and others.
For women who are completely unrestrained, men will not be stingy with their money and praise, as evidenced by the chastity monument and the words on it. However, for women who are "very promiscuous", men will no longer be stingy with their money and praise. Throughout history, it can be said with certainty that the money spent in the so-called "sales cave" and the beautiful words dedicated to kabuki are much more in quantity than the fees and inscriptions for steles. Men are such contradictory and hypocritical animals, supported by both water-based and non water-based poplars. From a woman's perspective, things are difficult to do. I really don't know what kind of woman to be in order to satisfy men. No wonder women complain that being a woman is difficult.
Objectively speaking, women who are "very water loving" have made unparalleled contributions to the development of Chinese culture. If a Chinese person can memorize several ancient poems, then perhaps one of them is dedicated by a certain poet or poet to a woman he knows as a "beautiful woman". It is totally inconceivable that if every woman can qualify for the memorial archway of Chastity, whether there will be such a gorgeous color in Chinese culture. The talent of poets needs to be nurtured through relationships with women. Of course, we are not advocating here that women should be more versatile in order to cultivate more talented poets and create more love poems and lyrics for China.
Beauty's misfortune is said to be a man shirking responsibility
For thousands of years, countless wars have been waged to compete for women. When men reflect, they often attribute the cause of war to women's fickleness. On the surface, there is also a point of truth, because if a woman's nature is to have a strong woman who doesn't have two husbands, then all men in the world will break their minds from touching someone else's wife or lover, and they won't be able to fight. But deep down, the saying that beauty is a curse is really unreasonable. If men are not too obsessed with their pathological state, how can they even launch wars to steal women? If a society is dominated by women, there may also be a war fought for a man, and at this time, women may call this man the "blue face disaster water". However, in fact, such small 'wars' have indeed occurred. In a polygamous social system, the struggle between wives and concubines is for a man. But no woman has ever believed that men are the curse of conflict. In this sense, women are more willing to take on responsibilities than men.
Yin and Yang are the most fundamental components of this world, and men and women are the fundamental elements of human society. Sitting under the same blue sky, attracting yin and yang, and dating men and women are the most natural things in the world. Otherwise, it is abnormal. Of course, any relationship should follow certain rules. Rules are supposed to serve human happiness, but unfortunately, humans often prioritize rules over themselves, causing those rules to directly harm human happiness and stifle human nature.
There are significant differences between the inner world and the external world, and sometimes even water and fire are incompatible. A person cannot turn all their inner desires into reality. There is a fundamental principle in dealing with the relationship between the inner and outer world, which is: you can do everything you want to do internally, provided that it does not cause too much practical trouble. An extreme example is when you want to rob a bank in your heart, and if you do, there will be severe penalties waiting for you. No matter how you settle your accounts, it won't be worth it. The same is true in the relationship between men and women. Women can have a hundred thoughts and feelings in their hearts, but if they really marry so many men as mentioned earlier, at the current market price, just moving and taking wedding photos are enough to make them exhausted and waste their wealth. If health and food and housing are both issues, one can only watch other women continue to indulge in fantasy.
