Sexual Health
My husband is on a business trip, and my mother-in-law pretended to be a netizen to test my chastity to prevent me from having an extramarital affair
My husband and I talked about it ourselves, and our relationship has always been good. We have been married for three years. My husband has a special job and is on business trips all year round. There is very little sweetness between husband and wife. Every night, we chat through video, and I complain to him. He is also very helpless. Although traveling is hard, he earns a lot and has a wide network. He has his own ambition to start his own company in the future. In order to fulfill his career, he sacrificed his time chatting with me and focused mainly on his work.
Although others are not often around, romance is not lacking for me. On Valentine's Day, he ordered flowers and cakes online and sent them to our company. Seeing the envious gaze of his colleagues, my heart was filled with joy. He was willing to spend this energy on me, indicating that his heart was on my side and I was very satisfied. After getting married, we lived separately from our mother-in-law. They live in an old house in the suburbs and have nothing to do with playing cards and strolling around with their little dogs. Their life is very comfortable.
When we got married, we bought a wedding house and were not far from our grandparents. The bus only took half an hour. Usually, when our husband comes back from a business trip, we go to visit their two elders, have a meal, and have a chat. This year, my mother-in-law doesn't know what's going on. She comes over three or more times a week. I inquired and found out that she saw us married for three years and didn't have any children. She was worried about our relationship and occasionally came over to observe. I can also understand the old man's thoughts, but what she did later made me stutter.
She still lives with me, regardless of her father-in-law. I have advised her multiple times, and she has always said, 'Your father can take care of himself, I will accompany you more to save you from loneliness.'. Afterwards, he also taught him how to chat online, saying that he wanted to keep up with the times. After teaching her, what she did left me speechless. She applied for a QQ account online, added me, and chatted with me all day long. She even talked to me in the name of a boy, saying a lot of irrelevant love words. She thought I didn't know it was her and didn't use her brain to think. Her ability to chat online was still my fault. At first, I could still understand her. My husband was away all year round and she was worried about my loneliness and infidelity.
But she harasses me several times a day, and when she comes to my house, she even sets me up and asks if anyone around me is pursuing me. I'm really speechless, it's not like what a mother-in-law said. If I expose her directly, I'm afraid she won't be able to handle the situation. Last week was even funnier, and even asked me out to play. I really thought it was both funny and polite. Can't she treat me like a normal person? I am really disappointed with how unbearable I feel. I shared this matter with my husband, who not only didn't help me, but also laughed at her mother for being very funny.
I am really angry. This is clearly a sign of distrust towards me. Why does my husband behave so easily? I'm really worried that one day I can't bear to explode. What should I do?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
Long term separation after marriage leads to unstable relationships. My mother-in-law is worried about you, actively probing you and considering from your perspective is a manifestation of distrust towards you. On the contrary, from the perspective of the mother-in-law, this is her good intentions, to test your thoughts and ensure the foundation of your marriage. It is also out of kindness, but the method is not appropriate.
The husband laughed at you not because he laughed at you, but because his mother made a mountain out of a molehill. At present, if you feel embarrassed and frank with her directly, then you and your husband should take the time to have a child and prove it to your mother-in-law. If you don't have any plans to have a baby now, politely tell your mother-in-law not to worry about it. You will live your own small life well, and even if you resume your separation, lead a normal life as a husband and wife as soon as possible. Less complaining, more understanding, and your family will be more fulfilling.