Post Date December, 02 2023
Men tend to become the synonym of strong and strong in our hearts. Indeed, men bear the burden of family, and they also have to work hard to develop their own business. Therefore, the pressure of men in life is huge, so many men have many health problems because of the pressure.
Men are under high pressure both physically and mentally
"Men are also weak!" From a physiological point of view, the incidence of birth defects in boys is 33% higher than that in girls, and the death rate of boys in the first month of birth is 30% higher than that of girls; From a psychological point of view, society gives men a lot of expectations. "There is a standard for a good man circulating on the Internet: to be able to go to the hall, to go to the kitchen, to buy a new house, to raise a wife, to remember his parents, and to please his mother-in-law. Although it is a joke, it is not difficult to see that men are surrounded by pressure from all aspects."
New titles such as "male god", "warm man" and "economically applicable man" actually mean that society, especially women, constantly put forward new requirements for men. "In ancient society, men were required to be loyal and filial, but now they are required to be 'loyal, filial and loving'. Men should not only be successful in their careers, be filial to their parents, but also be good to their wives. Coupled with the influence of traditional thinking, such as' men can not play with tears', men can laugh at themselves when they are tired, but can not be violent and abandoned. Over-pressing their inner distress is easy to suffer from various psychological disorders." Experts provided a large epidemiological survey data involving more than 60000 people, Among them, the incidence rate of substance dependence (alcoholism), schizophrenia, and organic mental disorder in men is higher than that in women.
Beware of four psychological transition periods
Throughout a man's life, there are roughly four important transition periods, each of which has its own "time bomb" that may make men suffer.
1. The restlessness of adolescence. In early adolescence (about 9~13 years old), men's sexual physiology and psychological development speed reached a peak, their cultural level gradually increased, their sense of innovation was strong, and they liked to try to accept new things, so they were extremely vulnerable to the influence of people and things around them. However, due to the lack of social experience, the ability to resist setbacks is often insufficient. Men in the middle and late adolescence (about 13-18 years old) are faced with the adjustment of complex interpersonal relationships, the pressure of academic competition, and sometimes may fall into the mire of puppy love.
2. Potential safety hazards in prime. Men in their twenties and thirties have gradually become married and settled down, and their personal achievements and social status have risen, but the scenery is full of vicissitudes. Many people can't afford a house or a car for the time being, and they don't have many tickets in their pockets. They can't stand up to 30, and they can't get social recognition, which virtually adds to their worries. The family and society have higher expectations for men, so they are more likely to use the wrong way to regulate their emotions, such as silence or anger, and more prone to depression. This stage is also a high incidence period of substance abuse (such as alcohol and drug abuse).
3. Neurological disorders during menopause. After the age of 50, some men have clinical symptoms similar to female climacteric syndrome, such as neurological disorders, depression, memory loss, inattention, fatigue, insomnia, hot flashes, sweating and sexual dysfunction, and the quality of life is reduced.
4. Old age. After retirement, men gradually move away from the fame and fortune market, their social value is reduced, and it is inevitable that they will feel lost and lonely. They are increasingly worried about the economy and health, and appear suspicious and stubborn. People are more conservative when they get old, and it is difficult to accept new things. Their living habits remain unchanged. Once the environment changes, it is easy to have adaptation obstacles.
Men need to be kind when suffering
Men feel more stressors from childhood to adulthood, but they are not able or good at expressing psychological discomfort due to the influence of culture and environment. "There is a 'pressure bucket' theory in psychology: negative events are like the water dripping from the faucet, and the water level in the bucket is the stress level. If you don't pay attention to decompression, the water will overflow." Men who have the following symptoms and last for more than two weeks should pay attention to whether they have depression tendencies: smoking and drinking, irritability, irritability; Difficult to concentrate, nervous and anxious, self-blame, self-guilt and suicide; It is prone to fatigue, sleep disorder, body pain and decreased libido.
The decompression method is wrong, and the effect is counterproductive. For example, kicking a "pressure bucket" over (in a rage) often hurts people and hurts themselves. Healthy coping styles include social interaction, sports, hobbies, constructive strategies, etc. It can be summed up as the "five constant": constant attention, constant contact, constant giving, constant activity and constant learning. To be specific, first of all, we should understand our own desires rationally, so that our confidants can win every battle. Second, face the reality, change what can be changed and accept what cannot be changed. Third, we should do well in interpersonal relations, neither relying too much nor obeying. Fourth, be brave to take responsibility and have fun from work. Fifthly, learn to manage emotions. A balanced mind is like a seesaw in a children's paradise. When you sink down, the fluctuating emotions can naturally be suppressed.
Because men bear the heavy burden of life and career, every man needs to constantly learn some matters of physical health care in life, and mental health can not be ignored. Timely decompression and timely adjustment of mental state are very useful for health protection.
