I have taken a virtuous and beautiful daughter-in-law, and my career has also been in transit. A hospital examination form has chilled my heart

My wife is very beautiful and I met her at a friend's party. She is very quiet and doesn't like to talk. She sits quietly by the side, smiling at a glance, as beautiful as a painting. I have also had several romantic relationships, but I am one of the more conservative boys who is not good at expressing their emotions. I only dare to sneak a few glances at her. The girl's mind is quite delicate. She noticed me and even took the initiative to ask for my contact information. From then on, we have a feeling of constantly giving up.

After getting familiar with it, like most couples, we experienced the madness of a passionate love period. Every road and street we walked together are witnesses of our love. The cooperation between the two became increasingly harmonious, and after meeting our parents, we got married smoothly. Every night, when I see my wife lying next to me, I secretly feel happy. I never thought I would have such a happy day.

It really goes with the old saying 'people feel refreshed at happy events'. After getting married, my career has made a new breakthrough. The new project given by the company has made me the person in charge, and my salary has doubled. The position has also been upgraded to a higher level. My wife is also happy for me. My marriage lasted for a year, and I began to want to have my own child. My parents have been looking forward to having grandchildren, and I have become stable in my work, and I have also had this idea. I told my wife about my idea of having a child, and her reaction to me was very strange. Her nervousness indicated that something was hidden from me.

I thought she was worried about having a child and affecting her figure, but she agreed at once and then took various tonics to regulate her body. I didn't think much about this, thinking it was just a simple maintenance product. She had been eating for several months without any movement in her stomach, but her body was gaining weight. I was worried that what she was eating was not right and wanted to take her to the hospital for a check-up, but she refused. I began to suspect that she was hiding something from me. I checked my body behind her back and there was no problem at all, so she had a problem.

That day she went to the hospital on her own, and I secretly followed her. She came out of the diagnosis room, feeling very frustrated. I deliberately made a mistake, and when she saw me, she felt nervous and hid the examination form behind her back. I walked over and pretended to be okay, looking at her checklist with concern. After reading it, I mistakenly said, 'We don't recommend having children'. The wife explained in a low tone: After miscarriage, she discovered that she was an Rh negative woman. The first child is usually normal, and the second child is prone to neonatal hemolysis! So the doctor suggests not having children in the future.

At that moment, my mood was very complicated and I couldn't have a child. That's why I couldn't be a father? She was pregnant before, why didn't she tell me? She looked at me silently and voluntarily confessed, saying that she was pregnant with a child with her ex before me. The ex had an affair, and she was heartbroken and had an excessive miscarriage. That's why she has been taking medication. She wants to regulate it through medication, but now the test results are still the same.

She begged me for forgiveness. When she was in love with me, she didn't even consider the situation to be so serious, so she didn't tell me. I'm very confused, I don't know what to do? She was pregnant and didn't tell me about the abortion. My parents have been urging me to have a baby, and my wife is in this situation. Should I explain it to them? What should I do?

reply:

Everyone has their own past, she doesn't want to mention it, she doesn't want to deceive you, it's a scar, she doesn't want to uncover it again. If you choose to marry her, you should take on the responsibility of sharing hardships with her. In this situation, you should not abandon her for the sake of your own face and the face of your family. Nowadays, medicine is very developed, and if you are still young and take good care of yourself, there may be miracles to come. Of course, having one's own child is indeed important, but both the child and wife are their own relatives. How can you bear to give up your first wife in order to have one's own flesh and blood? Is this fair to her? Sort out your emotions and give her a clear attitude, not to disappoint your first wife.