Post Date December, 03 2023
Perhaps it is because there are too many temptations in this colorful world, or because we have too many desires and demands. In the face of so many temptations, we become increasingly lost, jealous, and begin to learn to betray. If this situation is manifested in marriage, it is basically a marital crisis, and the main reason for the crisis is that one party in the marriage has an extramarital affair.
Most people will voluntarily admit their mistakes and mistakes when facing betrayal, but for the injured party, this kind of injury is a lifelong scar that cannot be healed, which is also a huge problem and challenge faced by many people in besieged cities today. The so-called post trauma, we also call it "post infidelity" in a trendy way.
The main manifestation of "post infidelity" is to use all possible means to restore the marriage to its original state, but the victim's incessant chatter after recovery makes the infidelity party live like a child who has done something wrong and cannot correct it, living in self blame and guilt. Once this resentment accumulates to a certain extent, the relationship will inevitably crack. For example, it is a story that is even sadder than sadness, which is called a second degree trauma.
We cannot live forever in the shadow of others. So, since the error has already occurred, we just need to find a solution to restore our original happiness, and there is no need to be a post-traumatic person.
Do not give to oneself
There are too many disappointments in this life, but our life still needs to continue. Since we still need to continue, we must forget the unpleasant things, even if we cannot forget them. People cannot always live in their own shadow, and the more pain they feel, the more they need to let go. Therefore, if we choose to maintain a complete marriage, we must move forward with both wind and rain, learn to let go, otherwise, It will completely disorient oneself and lose the courage to manage a marriage.
Do not give to others
The aggrieved party should not just cling to the mistakes of others just because they have caused harm to you. Yes, the other party's infidelity has caused irreparable pain to you, but when you think from a different perspective, what would you think? As long as you are a person, you will definitely make mistakes, because there is no perfect person. In one's life, there are always many multiple-choice questions to do. Can you guarantee that every choice is correct? So, we need to spare people and spare them.
Teaching according to one's aptitude
Everything has its cause and its consequences. The same goes for infidelity. There must be a reason, whether it's a family atmosphere, an disharmonious sexual life, or a separation between two places, etc. It's all possible. Knowing your mistakes can make a difference, and there's nothing good about it. As long as we find the reason and be honest with each other, there are no unsolvable knots.
