Post Date December, 03 2023
When you are in love, all you see are the strengths of each other, but after you get married, the weaknesses of each other all show up. In fact, the couple is the most authentic themselves in their married life. To maintain a long-term marriage, it is not enough to rely on each other's patience. So, what should you do if you want to manage your marriage well?
Keep some childlike innocence
In other words, childlike innocence. People with childlike innocence are happy and full of vitality. In marriage, it can bring more happiness and make marriage and love lasting, so it is best to retain a bit more innocence, simplicity, and a bit more hobbies and curiosity. Although you may be a "gentleman" outside, it's best to be a big child when you come home and the door is closed.
Do something romantic
In marriage, in addition to firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, and tea, there is also a need for romance, which is indispensable. However, Chinese people do not pay much attention to these, believing that marriage does not need them. Actually, you are wrong. Romance is not just about giving flowers and dancing, it also doesn't require you to spend too much time and money. You know, the forms of romance are colorful and diverse.
Have a little skin kiss every day
In China, couples often maintain a certain distance when they are outside, rather than being as sticky and intimate as when they are in love. However, expert research has found that intimacy has an unspeakable effect on improving the quality of family life, while people who lack hugs and kisses for a long time are prone to "skin hunger", which in turn leads to emotional hunger.
Agree on a romantic relationship and make it sweet to each other
When in love, sweet words come when you open your mouth, but once you get married, you can't open your mouth. But psychologists believe that spouses must say at least three emotional love words to each other every day, such as "I love you". Many Chinese couples even hope that their spouses will show their love through meticulous and considerate care. This is true, but it is not enough.
Strengthen communication in life
In China, the tradition of male dominance still exists, resulting in arbitrary power. Moreover, Chinese people often suppress their opinions and unhappiness in their minds, not being outspoken, and also call them "good-tempered and cultivated.". In fact, mutual locking can only lead to deeper misunderstandings. Long term depression equals malignant energy, and once it erupts, it can be even more destructive. The normal practice should be to strengthen communication.
Praise the other person's strengths
In Chinese families, both men and women often look at their children with appreciation, but when faced with their loved ones, they tend to look critically and always feel that the other person is not good. The correct approach is to look at the other person with an appreciative eye and often praise them. If you only say the advantages of your spouse in person and behind your back, then you have learned to love and can reap it.
Funny and humorous
A person who has a sense of humor and is very funny can bring a lot of happiness in the family. If you have this condition yourself, don't be stingy with your humor in marriage. Because humor can resolve and buffer conflicts and disputes, eliminate embarrassment and estrangement, increase interest and emotion, and make a family happy and harmonious.
The above are a few factors that cannot be lacking in marriage, although the lack of some of them will not immediately put your marriage at risk. However, over time, they will be found indispensable.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
