Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I got married after being in love for a year, and now it's too hasty to think about it. Time is not long enough to see a person's nature clearly.
Married for 7 years. I have been living apart for many years, but the relationship between the couple is still good. Just five years ago, I found out that he had quarreled with other women on QQ when he told them he was not married yet. I still forgave him afterwards. Three years ago, it was discovered that he was having an affair with another woman through text messaging, and there was another big argument. Later, he forgave him for the sake of his child.
This year, he opened a photography building in another place thanks to my relatives. Just when it opened, it made me realize that he had an affair with one of the responsible people and had a romantic relationship. He often sleeps in the photography studio without coming back! After I discovered it, he even took her home.
He has been asking me to forgive him. I was very angry. I had intended to observe him for a few days, but I found out that he had not cut off from the woman or had any connection with her. When I left the house, he called the woman and found her at home. Really, I have lost faith in him, and my love for him no longer exists. I hate him very much. What else can I believe in this world?
I am still young and have my own work and life, but now I feel like living in hell, so gloomy.
Ms. Zhu:
This man should say that he was born with no blessings. A wife who helps her develop her career is rare. Unfortunately, this man doesn't cherish it.
I don't know about your previous love and marriage experiences, so it's difficult to judge the authenticity and degree of your emotions. If this man has been under your help and still doesn't know how to cherish it, I think such a man is incurable. It's better to start a new life on your own instead of persisting aimlessly.
We all started love and marriage when we were ignorant. Although there is some intersection of hearts, it is undeniable that this is not enough.
Marriage is very important for women. Especially after having children, women cherish family and marriage more. However, this cannot become a weight for men to coerce women's emotions. Some men, especially those who don't know how to be grateful, even if you treat them well, they cannot redeem their wild hearts. These men may occasionally encounter kind-hearted women, but they don't know how to cherish them, so it's their turn to brush past happiness. Similarly, when encountering such a man, women are also unfortunate. However, leaving such a man and summarizing the experiences and lessons of marriage will also be beneficial for women's future lives.
The current society is already very open, creating many conditions for women to choose divorce and remarriage. It's just that some women are unwilling to make trouble for their children and face. As a result, accommodating men and enduring the pain of marriage has become an impossible choice for some modern women. This is sad. This cannot be blamed on others, it can only be blamed on the woman herself. Blame my own choice, blame myself for not having the courage to choose again.
A woman who is independent and confident must be the master of marriage. The kind of life that is painful due to marriage, and the pain cannot save the marriage, is not an option for modern people.
