Everyone knows that separated marriages are prone to problems, just like couples or friends in life. As long as they are not together, it is difficult to achieve good results. So many couples want to know how to maintain a separated marriage? Let's take a look at a story together.
My lover and I have always had a good relationship, but recently he is going to work outside the country. Everyone also knows that men are ambitious people, and he hopes that our future lives can be better, so he has this good opportunity to go. Although the city he went to was not too far from home. "But since he left, I have moved home to live with my parents. At first, I was a bit lonely, but it wasn't too bad. On weekends, sometimes he comes home, or I go over to him.".
Over time, a lot of things have gradually changed. Previously, he loved me very much, but now he likes to criticize me very much. He often says that I don't read books and have no knowledge, I only watch TV and don't read news, I don't understand politics, I don't speak and I don't understand the world. Anyway, it's boring and childish to think badly of me and say what I like. In fact, I don't think I am such a person. Although my level cannot meet his requirements, many friends and leaders in daily life have common sense of me.
Although, in general, I spend a lot of money recklessly, in fact, he was also very willing to spend money for me before. He bought me a lot of things and took me to many places. It can be said that the quality of my life has improved significantly since I was with him. Now when he criticizes me, I rebut him, saying that I am also very good. He actually said, "I give you everything, you have the ability to leave me to live on your own!"! I was very angry when I heard that talking about money between husband and wife hurt my feelings. Moreover, I also have a unit that has a salary, but I don't have as much as him.
Recently, I found out that he began to feel lonely and became more ambiguous with other girls. I secretly looked at his mobile phone and found out. Although there is nothing yet, the woman also knows that he has been married, but I am not a fool. I can see that he is actively pursuing that woman. So one day when I spoke to him, I said to him, "Although you are fighting outside for our family, don't mess with me outside.". "He just knows, he knows, he looks like Fu Ao.".
Gradually, I found out that his mobile phone was not lying around, often leaving it out of my reach, and obviously didn't want me to know anything. Once, I learned from his friend that he often went to a bar with them at night, which I thought might be a precursor to cheating. "But I can't take this out and say that he's not good, and their quarrelling also affects his work and can cause great pressure on him.". "But I can't stop thinking wildly every day. I always feel that he has met another woman, and sometimes I begin to fantasize that he has been sexually unfaithful. I feel like I have a mental illness now, and I live a melancholy life every day.".
"But I can't get up that fast. I have a good company and it's difficult to transfer. Moreover, both of our parents are here. Their plan is to let me have a child this year, have a child here, and when the child is a little older, I'll be with him there in the past. This will take about three years. I've heard that pregnant wives and husbands are the most likely to cheat, and I'm afraid that something like that will happen.", I think it's hard to be a woman.
"I can't freely control my own life. The future is so long, and I suddenly feel very unsure. Therefore, if your family conditions are good and your husband is extremely rich in material resources, it is difficult to have a long marriage.". If your family conditions are poor, your husband is financially deficient, and you are inseparable, the marriage can barely be maintained.
Gender expert analysis: Marriage is a family built by two people together, living together and living together day and night - this is the understanding of most people about marriage.
There is often a gap between reality and ideal life, and many couples may have to live separately due to changes in the nature and location of their work. Sometimes, although couples live under the same roof, they rarely meet due to differences in working hours.
Separation between two places is beneficial for marriage, but it can also bring some problems to the lives of both sexes. When separated, both parties often recall living together, which also brings a sense of freshness to the couple, and more importantly, allows them to have their own private lives. "When there are advantages, there are disadvantages. The two sides live apart, without good communication between them, and they begin to hate the situation of separation, which is the red light when marriage breaks down.".
Now let's express my own opinion. I personally support the separation of two places. Therefore, distance allows couples to have no sense of belonging and therefore have constraints. Yes, it allows them to have more autonomy and exercise their ability to handle problems. Not relying too much on others can greatly enhance their confidence, which is beneficial for balancing the relationship between couples and avoiding unnecessary conflicts.
In addition, everyone's understanding of time is also different. Living apart from each other is a good way to ensure a complete and autonomous life time for each other, without worrying about whether they are in tune with each other.
Both sides maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, which is the most crucial point. Make full use of high-tech communication means such as mobile phones, the Internet, and electronic imaging to maintain good communication. The person who remains at home should try to solve their own problems in life, such as finding a maintenance worker, cleaner, or temporary nanny, so that the person who works outside does not have any worries.
Cultivate interests and hobbies to enrich your solitary life. Often give someone unexpected surprises, such as putting a family photo or writing a note in their partner's suitcase, to make them feel your thoughts. Carefully arrange the reunion time and deeply experience the warmth of the family.