Men don't come home until a year after marriage. On the honeymoon, men at work always suspect that their watches are slow. When men come home late day by day on the grounds of "working overtime tonight" and "I found a part-time job", the marriage certificate must be beginning to turn yellow. Just as primary school students are late to return home after school because there are endless homework and endless teaching to stay at home, which is really boring. In addition, there are many beautiful, interesting and delicious things on the way, the reason why men don't go home is basically the same: first, the attraction of home is too little, and second, there are too many temptations outside. So, men are like women who have to dillydally in front of the dressing table for an hour before going out. Even if their wives keep calling, they will go home far faster than dating when they are in love. Women usually conclude arbitrarily that men have signs of changing their minds. Maybe things are not as complicated and scary as she imagined. Maybe the man who left the shift just read the newspaper carefully in the office with a cup of faded tea. Women think it's time to relax. In fact, what lurks in this seemingly calm water is the real emotional crisis - even if a man doesn't do anything outside, his indifference to home is no more fortunate than his "flower" outside. At this time, women should find their own reasons. Based on the experience and observation of a man who has been married for five years, if the man's motivation for not going home is simply not to go home, rather than playing tricks or conspiracies behind his wife's back, this may be due to the following reasons:
1. His wife is too nagging. Many men are willing to drink beer with peanuts with a few friends at the dusty snack stand on the road side, and are not willing to go home to enjoy a table of delicacies prepared for him by his wife. It's not that their taste buds are numb to delicious food, but that every time they eat, their wives always nag: the cost of living is a little tight again this month. What's the matter with you? After working in this company for several years, it's still such a low salary. Look at the neighbor Li Rihuo... Many men can tolerate the high decibel noise of the house decoration downstairs, but they can't tolerate their wives saying that the chicken has increased by five cents per kilogram, and then say that the bonus this month has decreased by one hundred. This is more annoying than the football commentator who introduced the players five times in a game, so he hid and did not listen.
2. It is difficult to communicate with his wife. After marriage, women are no longer a quiet and patient listener because they are poor at dealing with work and housework. When the man was ready to tell her about the troubles of her work, she ran to the kitchen again and again. What she cared about was more stewed ribs soup on the stove and less soup. Moreover, there are some words that men can't say with women. Therefore, they prefer to drink with friends, especially when they are drunk, they can talk casually, and even have a good feeling for the beautiful new college student in the office.
3. His wife loves to teach others. A woman's little bird will only appear before marriage. A married woman is more like a strict and critical teacher. She will tirelessly urge a man to correct all his minor mistakes. A man's floor is not cleaned, and he forgets to wash it after using the toilet, which may lead to half a day's training class. If he can't afford it, he will hide.
4. The wife is suspicious. When a woman is with her children, she likes to talk about how she will go to a famous university in the future. When she is with her husband, she likes to talk about the broken marriages and heartless men around her. She is beating around the bush and taking precautions against the weak. In fact, she does not trust men and is not optimistic about the prospects of marriage, which makes men unbearable. At least before a woman has anything to do with her, a man will refute her suspicion in good faith, which will inevitably provoke a war. For the sake of peace, it is better to stay away from a woman when her hands and mouth are free.
I don't blame women for men's failure to go home, but women are always rational and positive for finding more reasons for themselves. Why do men always run and pant when they go home on honeymoon? Because women at that time were much more lovely and amiable, and she attracted herself like a magnet. Now, she is like a cactus. Women are busy looking in the mirror after men habitually return late to see if their waist is thick and their face is yellow, which is not attractive to men. This may not be the root cause of the problem. The change of women from inside to outside after marriage is the main reason for men to avoid.
Of course, there are also some reasons why men don't go home. For example, their salary is controlled by their wives, and they have to apply for special funds to even invite friends to drink tea. So they need to enliven their second occupation and make their private money rich; For example, the later a man goes home now, it means that he has more entertainment and rich nightlife. Only men who have no money and no communication will go home and watch the TV as soon as they get off work. Therefore, men prefer to spend their time on the road rather than go back too early to let their neighbors face down; Of course, there are also men who have a wonderful life in the outside world, and they will not miss every chance of cheating... But I think this is not the most fundamental reason. For men, being at home attracts bees like flowers, birds like nests, and boats like banks. Men's steps back home will be firm and powerful, which requires men and women to do a lot together and change a lot.