Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been married for 13 years and my child is 12 years old. He and I were colleagues at the beginning. We got married because we had a good feeling for each other. It was a distant marriage. At that time, both parents disagreed, but we were still together. I used to think he spoke little and was honest and reliable! Feeling good before marriage? Although we don't talk much together, our hearts are close, but now we basically have nothing to say.
We operate a processing workshop in a foreign place. In the daytime, we have nothing to say except the necessary explanation at work. At night, when we lie in bed and play mobile phones, he never communicates with me, such as ideal dreams, and new things we encounter outside. Every day, we play mobile phones in addition to work. I like to talk like some couples, but he doesn't respond to me when I talk. I don't say anything over time. I think we are like familiar strangers. He always yells at our mother and son, never speaking slowly. Like his son, I am afraid of his uncertain face. I am careful what I hope to do, for fear that he will be offended.
Everyone outside said he was good-tempered. Why did he do this to his closest person when he came home? My parents didn't agree with me when I was young. My father had an affair. I didn't care about our brothers and sisters for a long time. I hope to find a person who knows his cold and his hot. As a result No matter what he did wrong, he never apologized to me and admitted his mistakes, nor coaxed others. Later, he hugged me and talked to me as if nothing had happened. I hate his appearance. A while ago, when I learned to drive, he took the co-driver. He kept saying that I didn't know where to put the steering wheel and what kind of car to learn. I was angry! If I can drive, I need to spend money to learn, right? At this time, as my lover, shouldn't he teach me to grow with me slowly? Instead of cracking down on taunts I was angry and ignored him. After living apart for half a month, he still didn't seem to admit his mistakes and apologize. He cursed me for failing the exam before I went to the exam. I was very sad and thought I was very sad, regardless of my parents' objection to marrying such a person.
Today, he yelled at me again for a small matter. I really want to end this life, but I can't bear to think of the child. I really found that our character is becoming more and more inappropriate. Two introverted people are suffocating together Brother Shan, what do you think we should do? Is it so difficult for this man to bow his head to his woman?
reply:
Let me talk about your character first. Some people say that character determines fate. Some people think that character has no difference between good and bad. Personally, this is also true. In fact, everyone's character is not the same. There are not exactly the same two leaves in the world. Only if the characters are similar and similar, is it suitable for people with special similar characters to live together? Some people will think that it is better for couples to complement each other's personalities. In fact, in my opinion, it is not absolute. Whether it is complementary or similar, it is not a big problem. The key is to see whether two people have something in common at the spiritual level, and whether they really love each other.
At the beginning, you chose your husband precisely because you think your husband is quiet and introverted, but stable and reliable. Since you didn't care about his poor communication from the beginning, why is it difficult to accept after marriage? In fact, when you think about it carefully, it is not the other party that has changed, but we have changed. We want too much. If our requirements cannot be met by the other party, why not try to make ourselves do it? You are the same character, and what you desire may be exactly what he desires. If you think in a different way, you may not have so many complaints and dissatisfaction.
When a husband and wife are together, they should not ask too much of each other. They should not only take care of their own comfort, but also think in the other's position. If you feel that you can't hold back when you are with him, your husband may also hold back when he is with you. Otherwise, how can you get used to using mobile phones alone to kill time outside of work. Of course, I am not speaking well for him. He must have his problems, but you should also know that you are also imperfect.
In the same sentence, this man has been such a character from the beginning. He has not changed since the moment you accept him. He is such a person. If you think he has changed, or even become more and more annoying, that only shows the fact that you do not love him. This person is your own choice. You can accept him or give him up. The key is to look at the truth of your heart and think about it; Don't think about it. Everything can be the reason for separation. Follow your true heart.
I want to tell you that marriage is an unpredictable choice for the future. If you want to have a smooth marriage, you need to constantly adjust your state. At least you should understand tolerance and gratitude, and understand more. As long as there are no major issues of principle, other details can be ignored.
