After the husband has an affair, he should stay with his mistress during the Spring Festival and Valentine's Day

My husband had an affair. He lived together with this woman for half a year. On such special days as New Year's Day and Valentine's Day, he also cheated my company to accompany her. On Valentine's Day, he stayed with the woman from 11 p.m. to 2 a.m. and tattooed a sentence on his body: resolutely walk in the haze.

I think he loves this woman very much, but he doesn't admit it. He said it's just for fun. Now he has enough to go home and let me give him a chance. But I don't think he can be trusted. I don't know whether to divorce or not? Before we got married, he found a girl outside. That was in 2010. It was not as bad as this time, but it was the same in nature. At that time, he said that there was no substantive progress with the girl, and I couldn't give up, so I gave him the opportunity to get together again, and then get married and have children. Now that the child is one and a half years old, such bad things have happened again. I think I have forgiven him once, and this is the second time.

After all, you have been exposed to such things too much, and you must have seen them thoroughly. So I want to ask you, do you think he loves his extramarital partner? Is it necessary for our marriage to continue? In fact, I have nothing to give up for him. He can insult me so much. I have no feelings for him anymore. I am now entangled with children. What do children do after divorce? If I don't divorce, I don't know how to live in the future, especially confused and painful.

reply:

From the situation you described, this man is really not worth a woman to continue to cherish. How far should he go. However, this man's moral decline is also your responsibility. Because you chose to forgive him easily at the initial stage of his crime, which led to the low cost of his mistakes, and he did not learn from the past in the future. Because your children are so small, and you don't have enough courage to bear the consequences of divorce, it can be seen that divorce is not a wise choice at this time.

However, since your husband has begun to come back to ask you to explain that you have the initiative at this time, don't give in easily. You must let him realize the seriousness of the problem. Even if you have no confidence to divorce him now, you should muster the courage to play psychological warfare with him. After all, he seems to care about your marriage now. You can show him that you have made up your mind to divorce, so as to deter him from repenting completely. The purpose of doing this is to give the other party another chance, but also to give yourself a chance! Otherwise, you are also left and right entangled and embarrassed. Women are always soft-hearted animals. They will not be hard-hearted to the point of determination unless they have to, especially when faced with weak children.

Of course, at any time, women are not wrong to take care of children, but at the same time, they cannot use children to kidnap the happiness of marriage. To do this, do two things. When we punish our husband for cheating and try to save our marriage from crisis, we also need to prepare for the worst. Once we have no hope of saving our marriage, we should place all our hopes on ourselves, not on others. Therefore, it is very important to be self-reliant, self-reliant and self-confident, and make ourselves strong in the heart. We should rely on our own ability to stand in the society, be independent in economic, spiritual and personality, independent of others, and live without looking at men's faces, Is the only reliable way out.

Women should learn to be their own king. When they can make their own efforts to make themselves and their families and children live well, you will win. Only then will you be free from confusion and pain, and can you be completely relieved. Otherwise, you will only struggle endlessly in the humiliation and torture of others.