Post Date December, 02 2023
"I have no car, no money, no house, no diamond ring, but I have a heart to accompany you to old age." This is my favorite sentence in the era of naked marriage. This is the true portrayal of my marriage. This is how I got married with my husband. Sometimes when you think about it carefully, are you willing to make a hasty decision about marriage once in a lifetime? The girl's impulse, the man I believe, must marry. Marriage is fleeting. Ten years have passed in a blink of an eye, and our life is also moving towards normality step by step. From having nothing to buying a house and a car, we have survived. However, the changes in marriage made me extremely disappointed with feelings.
My husband's home is in the countryside. My parents don't want me to associate with him. "Everyone is trying to settle down in the big cities. How can you, a good city man, always want to marry in the countryside and go downhill?" This is what my mother often said in my ear before marriage. When love is in a daze, the rest is desperate. When we got married, our parents were very angry, but their daughter was their heart and soul, and they could only bear to part with each other. After marriage, we stayed in our city to work, and my father asked me to go home to live. Considering my husband's self-esteem, we rented a one-room house and lived in a cramped house outside.
He is a sales worker with a base salary of only more than 3000 yuan. In order to live, he works very hard. Over the years, he has accumulated a lot of contacts and his pockets have begun to swell. I work as an executive director in a company, and my living standard is constantly improving. A few years later, we got rid of the life of a small house and bought a two-bedroom apartment. During this period, I added a small life to my family. The family of three was very happy. My parents also looked up to my husband.
After the improvement of family conditions, his career is also like a fish in water. Years ago, he was promoted to the general manager of the project and managed hundreds of people. The position has been promoted, and the morale has also increased. I often go to those entertainment places, bars, nightclubs, hotels, KTV, and often forget to go home when playing. I am worried that his state is easy to deteriorate, and I remind him to pay attention to the discretion from time to time. He spoke carelessly about the business needs, which he could not control himself.
That day, a friend asked me to have afternoon tea. In the chat, she mentioned my husband. She said that she saw someone who looked like my husband in the hotel and went out with a woman who was dressed in fashion. The woman also drove a luxury car. I smiled and shook my head. It's impossible. He has friends who drive luxury cars. I have never heard from my husband. When my friend saw that I didn't believe it, he flipped his mobile phone and gave me a photo to identify.
Although the picture is blurred, the back is really my pillow. I can't sit still. I am chatting unintentionally. When I got home, I was restless. I didn't have enough evidence to let him admit it. So I opened his cell phone while he was sleeping. There is nothing unusual on WeChat. I click on his photo gallery. There are many photos cached on WeChat that have not been deleted. I am surprised when I click on it. A three-point nude photo of a woman, a self-portrait of the hotel, and the familiar luxury car. I'm going crazy. Wake up my husband, I'm very angry, and I can vaguely feel my body shaking.
Disturbing his dream, his temper also came up. First, he scolded me in full face, saw the photos, and then explained them incoherently. When I don't believe it, I simply admit that I cheated. He claimed that the other party was rich, and he divorced his husband and got a fortune of ten million. His relationship with her was limited to playing tricks and doing business. He also wanted to live better for our family.
I was in a very good mood, let him get out of the house, and asked for a divorce. He actually left, and disappeared with the box in the middle of the night. I completely collapsed. I received the divorce agreement the next few days and he signed it. I called him and he was off. The other day, he drove the luxury car and came home to pick up his luggage. I have cried to tears. When he left, he left a sentence: "Give you all the kids in the RV, I will go now. Are you satisfied?"! After ten years of marriage, there is nothing to talk about. What should I do? He didn't even leave a word of apology or an explanation, and directly chose a third party to run away. How can I feel relieved?
Reply from the consultant:
It is obvious that your marriage is the financial resources of a third party to help your husband. Knowing such a woman and going in and out of various dignified occasions will naturally help your career. He doesn't provoke you easily. He is waiting for an opportunity to make a conclusion to your marriage. He had a little calculation in his mind, and you just fell into the trap he set. He is addicted to money and it is difficult to get away from it. In front of rights and marriage, he did not hesitate to choose the former, so you should be able to measure his attitude towards marriage.
He is greedy for money, knows how to enjoy, and pursues fame and wealth. A third party provides him with a superior life and gives him appropriate opportunities. The deeper he gets, the harder it is to get out. Greedy people will always be condemned by conscience. We should not be under the influence of this kind of person. We can't afford to let go of our marriage and find a chance to talk about it. If we are confused for a while, we can still save it. If the poisoning is too deep, we can only go with him. Life will continue. We cannot be defeated by reality.
