Post Date December, 02 2023
Some people believe that from the popular phenomenon of "unmarried cohabitation" ten years ago to the current trend of "marriage with a son", they can deconstruct this pair of phenomena in various ways, either as a challenge to traditional marriage ethics or as an external form of sexual liberation. However, regardless of the explanation, since society is accustomed to the previous "unmarried cohabitation", I had to adapt to the phenomenon of "getting married with a son" that later emerged.
However, adaptation does not equate to identification. It is important to note that at a wedding banquet, when the bride holds the groom's hand and toasts guests one by one, it is often the groom who receives the blessing of "having a baby early", and the groom who is praised for "having skills" is always the groom. It is incomprehensible that since giving birth belongs to the bride, why does "glory" and praise always belong to the groom?
In this way, it is not just a case of blindly drilling corners, but rather to illustrate through this absurd phenomenon that the depths of the phenomenon of "marrying after a son" are always dominated by a patriarchal color. The so-called 'marriage with a son' is often a product of the woman's traditional sense of chastity and compromise with the man after pregnancy. It is a choice that has no way to follow, while the man has more choices. Choosing to marry is just a choice out of responsibility. In reality, 'marriage with a son' is often just a unilateral appeal from a pregnant woman, and in this unequal value choice, The idea of 'marrying a son' is just a 'portrait' of male chauvinism.
Marriage was originally about both men and women, but now it has become an adjunct to "pregnancy". "Marriage with a son" is more about getting pregnant than getting married in love, and getting married because of children rather than both men and women. The seemingly open and anti traditional form of marriage known as' marriage with a son 'is essentially a product of the woman's traditional sense of chastity.
What does "Fengzi Marriage" really mean?
Some people believe that there is no need to prioritize the marriage of a man and a woman. Marriage is originally a personal matter, and no one has the right to interfere. The reason why people pay attention to marriage by giving children is that it is contrary to the current morality, that is, it is connected with premarital sex. Some people are more opposed to premarital sex than to having children to marry.
However, looking back at human history, it can be found that social moral values are not static, diverse, and fluctuating. However, diversity does not mean no core, and volatility does not mean no value axis. Regardless of the diversity and volatility, rational regression to the core and axis is an inevitable trend. Just as the sexual liberation has led to a sharp increase in the divorce demography, the disintegration of a large number of families, the increase of single parent families and children born out of wedlock, and many other problems, it has finally attracted attention, making the western society re-examine the importance of sexual morality, and thus there is a trend of sexual morality returning.
The phenomenon of getting married with a son is actually a normal fluctuation in current moral values. Whether one approves or opposes it, there is no need to put on a hat that goes against morality and use the traditional concept of chastity to argue. Where to go in the end, people will adjust themselves based on the gains and losses in life, so as not to deviate too much from the core values of social morality.
Some people have also expressed that they have heard such words: women have sex because of love, and men love because of sex. He did not carefully consider the underlying truth of this sentence. Marriage with a son may not bring much confusion to marital life, but everything has a duality. Since it has become a trend for Fengzi to get married, the phenomenon of Fengzi not being able to get married may also increase day by day, and it is impossible for anyone who belongs to Fengzi to get married. Moreover, some 'offering sons' are not products of mutual agreement, and even if they get married, they are also the' tail of the rabbit ', and soon they will have to go their separate ways. Such examples are common in daily life, and many of the accompanying situations plague emotionally broken men and women. However, in most cases, the ones who suffer the most are women or even the new lives nurtured in their womb. In the new era of respecting life and putting human life at stake, no behavior can trample on the infringement of life.
The child is innocent. 'Fengzi' cannot be 'married', it is inevitable that the child is destined to be a child of a single parent family, or even a child born without a healthy family. This not only leaves regret for both men and women, but also creates a great burden and pressure on society. Of course, premarital sex is a private matter for every man and woman, and it is also their business to have children. Even if they let their children hold the tail of their wedding dress for themselves, it will also be tolerated by the society. However, after all, this is not protected by the law, and it is a great pressure on each other, especially women, and even more harmful to children.
Marriage provides legal protection for family life, and all forms of emotional expression are understandable. But marriage only provides legal protection for family life, is a constraint and reminder of human emotional behavior, and more importantly, endows humanity with a due responsibility and obligation. Fengzi marriage is only a form of marriage, but it is definitely not a good interpretation of mainstream marriage. So, when they raise their glasses to those who marry with their children, it's better to pay more attention to the issue of "giving birth to children" not being able to "get married"!
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From the above, we can know that no matter what it means to treat 'getting married with a son'? We all need to know that we should maintain a cautious attitude towards marriage and family!
