After ten years of marriage and constant arguments, my husband is carrying me to find a young lady behind my back. Where should I go

I have a very painful marriage, which has been going on for ten years. My husband and I have been living through arguments. I am three years older than him and very honest. When we first met, we both thought we were getting older and got married. But he thinks I don't have a job and my education is not as high as he's. Always arguing with me. Before getting married, he even hit me. I thought he would restrain himself after getting married, but we still had constant arguments.

Once, I went home from a business trip. I found a small footprint on the red floor of my house. At first glance, it's a girl's footprint. I asked him when I saw him, but he didn't say anything. As soon as I got angry, he picked up his bag and left. It took me an hour and a half to walk, and what made me even more nervous was that he often went out to take a shower, which lasted for over an hour. He cheated twice, once at the shower center and Miss; Once it was a phone call to confirm that he was with another woman. I now feel that my ten year marriage has become fragmented. I even thought about divorce. What do you think I should do?

Reply:

Firstly, marriage is not about making do or dealing with, but about caring and taking responsibility. For this, perhaps neither of you has achieved it. So, the beginning of marriage is destined to be unhappy.

Secondly, many men go out to find a lady because they are not satisfied with their psychology. Therefore, he felt that going out to find a young lady was his own satisfaction. However, your concern for your husband is not enough. You lack responsibility and praise, and you do not handle the relationship between husband and wife with care and artistry.

In addition, some men have no status in the workplace, no status at home, and no status with siblings. So, the inner world often feels oppressed and insecure. Do you think a man who is physically and mentally healthy, happy and sunny will spend money to find a young lady? I'm afraid not. It's often repressed men who do this, so when a man goes out to find a lady, he must be retaliating against the dissatisfaction of his marriage.

Also, you should not blame each other, after all, there are still ten years of love left, and your man is not far away. You should use your tenderness and consideration to bring him back.

Finally, as the saying goes, marriage requires managing each other. If you really don't want this marriage, you need to learn to relax and be peaceful; If you want it, you need to manage it well; If you really want a divorce from the bottom of your heart, you can choose to divorce. But if you really want a divorce, I hope your divorce is a new beginning, not a worse ending.