Post Date December, 02 2023
Q:
Once upon a time, I was also an intelligent and beautiful woman, and I never touched the spring water with my fingers. When did I go to the vegetable market before marrying my husband? All of this has changed since I married my husband. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, and we have a beloved and intelligent son. But for me, my current marriage is like a nightmare.
Six years ago, after giving birth to a child, my successful husband suggested that I resign from my job in order to better support my husband and children at home. At that time, I was a bit reluctant, but I still went home and became a full-time wife.
From then on, my life was submerged in oil, salt, sauce, and vinegar. However, instead of thanking me, my husband often mocked and belittled me. For this reason, I often argue and resist with my husband, and life is no longer as happy and happy as before. It was him who made me resign from my job and take care of my family with peace of mind, but why did he repeatedly ignore my efforts and mercilessly satirize me? He no longer praised me for my good looks, and his sweet words were even more silent. I bought new clothes, but his evaluation was rustic.
I don't understand. Am I wrong? I sacrificed so much for my family and children, why is this the usual result? I have reached the edge of understanding!
Answer:
You made a mistake, you lost yourself and thought it was your "sacrifice". You can't show your worth, so your husband is disappointed with you. He didn't thank you because his belief is that women do household chores as a matter of course. So, you can no longer see all of this as' sacrifice '. Giving for the family is your choice, but losing yourself for the family is your own problem.
Neither you nor your husband realized that the reason for all this is because you have no job, spend all day wandering around the kitchen and children, disconnected from the ever-changing society. Your husband's plea is selfish, but if you accept his plea, it is blind.
Although your husband has a successful career and does not need you to work hard to support your family, it does not mean that you will drown out your own brilliance; Without a job, one does not necessarily have to lose oneself or become independent.
You should have your own life style, even if you don't have a job, you should have your own life circle, your own fun, and your own atmosphere.
Assuming you want to revive yourself, it is recommended to go out and find a job, or cultivate your own interests and hobbies (shopping, cooking, beauty, and shopping are not included in this range), ensuring that you have a certain amount of time to interact with the outside world every day, and in short, demonstrate your value. To impress your husband, you can't just be a full-time wife at home, you need to showcase your charm.
