Post Date December, 03 2023
[Question]
I fell in love with someone I shouldn't have loved. He chased me first, but ultimately I fell in love with him. In order to be closer to him, I left home and came to B City alone, but he is becoming increasingly cold to me now. I feel like he has been chatting with other women recently. "We had a fight, and I tried not to contact him anymore, but I couldn't do it. I couldn't sleep well every night and always woke up to see if he had sent messages to talk to me. Finally, I was defeated by myself, so I took the initiative to contact him, but still saw some simple, cold, and untimely responses.".
"I got married very early, but there is no love in my marriage. He is unmarried, but his family does not agree with him to seek a second marriage.". "I've been in pain for a while, and now I don't want to marry him, just hope to give me a happy memory before he finds the right person.". But now I'm getting increasingly confused. Seeing his indifference, I don't know what I'm doing alone in a strange city?
My husband learned that he was lying to me about his feelings, so he went to bed. He refused to divorce. No matter how much trouble I make, my husband won't divorce and won't let me see him. "But I still came out to work, and my husband doesn't know why I'm here.". "He's a good husband, but unfortunately I didn't like him from the beginning. I just want to wait until that person gets married and I'll go back and make up for him.".
[Answer]
"The family does not agree to find a second marriage," and is unwilling to take responsibility. It is easy to find a reason that you cannot overcome. Men understand men, and your husband is right. A lover is someone who cheats on your feelings and coaxs you into confusion in the name of love.
Who imbued you with the concept of love? Make you think there is no love between you and your husband. Admittedly, when you first get married, you may have followed the wishes of your family or accepted the arrangements of your elders, but you can never deny that there are happy times when you are with your husband. Perception can confuse people's memories, and emotions are inherently very subjective feelings. It is precisely because of your empathy for another love, and the dull life between your husband and you, that in today's eyes, they are meaningless and not enjoyable.
As a man, who can tolerate the green light on his head. "For someone else, regardless of whether his wife was cheated or not, he's already fuming with anger, but he's still willing to let you come back.". "So and so, but because he's the only wife like you, he's certainly not willing to let his wife run away with someone else in a fit of confusion, so he won't divorce.". "He hasn't experienced many women, which determines that he only knows how to treat you well in his own way. However, these simple" good "characters are no more deadly than the flirting of an experienced lover.". "You hold your phone, make up your mind to ignore him, and can't help but actively contact him. It's just that you've been poisoned by love and deeply infatuated with those love words. You want him to speak eagerly to you as he did when he first met you, but he has already shifted his focus, and you've become a problem he can't shake off.". "He doesn't need your company. He already knows this well. He has a lot of love stories, and everyone can copy them when they change their partner. As for someone who wants to stay with him for a long time, he quickly abandons the relationship and doesn't want to fight at all, starting to be cold, indifferent, and estranged.".
Perhaps you will ask, why did he simply not return my message? An untimely response is also a response. The reason is very simple. There is a relationship between you and me. One day when he is out of work and temporarily unable to find a continuous bed mate, you are a good consideration. He only needs to be a little enthusiastic, and your relationship can be heated up. By the way, he will definitely list many high-sounding excuses to cover up his indifference during this period. For example, work is too busy, for example, there are things at home.
Don't wait any longer. If that person doesn't get married all his life, when will you wait? Leave early to repair the pain as soon as possible. Give up now. Good emotions should warm the hearts of people and become a more kind person. Let's see what that person brings to you? Fear, loneliness, loneliness, sadness, unease, and lying. Return to your husband and start making amends. Experience the benefits of being an ordinary man through companionship. You need to learn to live your life in a lively and colorful way, so that when you see the colorful display of others, you will no longer be confused, fall in love, and fall in love with someone you shouldn't love.
