Post Date December, 02 2023
Women return to everything after an affair for the sake of children?
Most women choose to return after an affair because they are afraid of their children's lack of maternal love and the negative impact of gossip on their children's growth. Therefore, they often suffer everything silently "for their children". To endure the incomplete marriage, to endure the life with masks, and to give up the inner desire. But in fact, after the return of the affair, can everything really bring a healthy and happy growth environment for children? Women and men are different. The reasons for cheating are mostly emotional rather than physical needs (not excluding a few cases of sexual affairs), and most of the reasons for choosing to return to the family and continue to play the role of a good wife and mother are for children. However, there are problems with this approach. Things often do not develop as we expected. There are two reasons for improper practice.
First, as a mother, she naturally hopes to do her best to provide a better environment for her children to grow up.
But is the "happy" family that has been reluctantly built a good growth environment? This is a paradox. Children are actually more intelligent and sensitive than parents think. Whether the love between parents is natural or forced to smile, children may not know. It is not conducive to the growth of children to let them live in an environment full of false smiles. In order to maintain the so-called stable family, all three people choose to suppress their hearts. Such "happiness" does not actually bring children a happy family experience, but may self-defeat. Therefore, from the fundamental point of view, the return of a woman's affair to everything for the sake of the child does not really play the role of "for the sake of the child", which fundamentally overturns its original intention.
Second, women tend to forget their original identity after becoming mothers.
Mother first existed as a woman with her own needs and pursuits. The role of mother makes women no longer care about their individual feelings, but choose to suppress and sacrifice their own desire to raise children. However, no matter a woman or a mother, everyone has only one life, and it is like a flick of a finger for decades. A mother should indeed be responsible for her child, but this responsibility is only to nurture her adult talents, not to bind her child's future, nor to give up pursuing her own happiness for her child. Is concealment and deception the example you should set for your children as a mother? What if there are difficulties? Home and everything is the real home and not the "home and" you try to create.
Whether it is to give children a sincere, truly happy and happy family environment, or to pursue their own life ideals without leaving regret for their future self, "women return to everything for children after an affair" is by no means the best option. Unhappy marriage leads to an affair, which contains many complex reasons. But since it happened, we should try to find a solution to the problem and seek a balance point with the least harm. This balance should not be supported by hypocrisy and reluctance, but should be frank with your heart. Children will follow their own path in life. As mothers, they just want to set a good example for them. The brave pursuit of happiness is not selfish or irresponsible, but responsible in a braver way.
