Post Date April, 15 2023
[Chief complaint of the case]
I fell in love with a married man. I fell in love with him at first sight, but he had a family and I also had a boyfriend, so there was no further development for each other. We parted peacefully until we got in touch again and greeted each other like old friends for many years. However, over the years, we have never forgotten all the details of each other four years ago, and we often have memories. Everything is so clear.
I couldn't control my thoughts. I asked him to meet me. Since then, he took care of me and didn't care about others. Eating doesn't give you the chance to pick up your own dishes. I will accompany you wherever I go. I was totally surprised to introduce him to my friends because he was a family member.
He said that he was actually very unhappy and didn't love his wife, whether it was true or not. In my opinion, it was still responsible if he didn't abandon his wife. Before, I really didn't know whether I loved my husband or not, until I found that I never kissed my husband. I didn't feel that way. I felt that I didn't love him. Maybe it was a habit to be together. I kissed him and felt really good with each other. I felt like two young people in love.
I never wanted to destroy his family, nor did I want to destroy my own family, because that would hurt many people, which is too selfish.
After a short reunion, I left. This time, I was still sad. The only thing that changed was that I felt like I had left my family. In the future, we will live in peace with each other, but the yearning and caring in our hearts are sublimated. Like him in the two cities, I get up early every day, go home late to sleep, and live like this repeatedly every day. This is the same reason for me and him. Because of unhappiness, I can never find the reason to go back early. I don't know what I want? I don't know what he wants?
[Expert diagnosis]
Your love with him is real and dreamy. Although you are separated intellectually, the more you can't get, the more you want to have. Secret love, in itself, is a spiritual idea of self enjoyment. The character, behavior and thought of the other party are all operated by you. In the process of lust, you perfect each other and sanctify this love.
For you, cheating with him is to realize your love dream. This kind of dream has accumulated in your heart for a long time, causing you to form a morbid dependence and miss on him. For him, as a married man, he is not responsible for his wife and family, but has relations with married women, which is morally shameful. Men who are not loyal to marriage will not be loyal to any woman.
So, although you can't help yourself, stay away from him, on the one hand, to ensure the purity of your marriage; On the other hand, leave a white space for your inner love dream.
