Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I have a good relationship, but last year when I had a child, I contacted my ex girlfriend and said it was just a friend relationship. Later, I told me that I wouldn't contact them again. In February of this year, he went to another city to work and contacted her girl again. However, I discovered her again and promised me not to contact her again.
At the beginning of this month, we came to the same city together, and the woman was also there. Just a few days ago, he went to meet her behind my back, and this time I got angry. He told me that he would never contact again and would kneel down again. But my heart is still very uncomfortable now, I don't know how to let go of this matter. I would like to ask the teacher, will my husband still contact his ex girlfriend? Is it possible for an ex girlfriend to become a mistress? How can I handle it to avoid such a situation?
Ms. Cheng:
If you want him to cut off his relationship with his ex girlfriend, first you need to understand why he contacted her. Is it a matter of disconnection? Or is it a resurgence of old love? From your life, I don't know if you have summarized which time periods, he will contact his ex girlfriend. If you see this time point, you will understand why he contacted his ex girlfriend. Then look for the reason from oneself, whether it is the birth of the child, or if you have neglected to allocate your energy to the child. Also, if he works in a different place and the couple is in a different place, if communication is not smooth and emotions are unfamiliar, it is easy for a third party to intervene.
Regarding his guarantee, your excessive credulity is actually a form of indulgence. You may as well solve the problems that exist between you and stabilize your relationship, so that others can seamlessly intervene. At the same time, you can also understand your husband's true thoughts, whether contacting your ex girlfriend is due to loneliness or a debt to her. If there are other reasons besides emotions, you can be generous and work with your husband to help him solve the problem. Only by addressing the root cause can problems be completely discovered.
