Post Date December, 03 2023
Both spouses have different psychological status in the family. Compared to a husband, your role is wife; Compared to a son, your role is mother; Compared to parents, your role is as a daughter or daughter-in-law.
Due to the influence of traditional culture, people's traditional views on the role of marriage in the family have been shaped. "Men dominate the outside, women dominate the inside," "strict father and loving mother," "masculine and feminine," and so on, are common patterns of husband and wife roles. Modern marriage requires both spouses to pay attention to their own roles and positions in family life, while constantly enriching the content of love life. Only by maintaining role flexibility can marriage psychology blend and the tree of love remain evergreen.
So, what is character elasticity?
The so-called role elasticity includes three meanings.
1. Role support.
The wife understands and supports her husband's various psychological needs, and the husband also understands and satisfies his wife's emotional needs. This is good role support. For example, there was a young woman who was too timid to go home alone after middle shift. Before marriage, regardless of summer and autumn rains, winter and snow, her boyfriend almost always waited at the factory gate to take her home when she was off the middle shift. After marriage, the man still did this, but gradually there was less pickup and drop-off. "So the wife said that her husband had changed his mind, and he felt aggrieved, resulting in endless arguments.". Here is a question of mutual role support.
If a wife understands the role of her husband and understands that waiting for him every day is indeed a burden for him, quarrels and quarrels may not happen. "If a husband can understand his wife's request for waiting, on the one hand, it is because he is timid, and on the other hand, there are also some women who mean to be spoiled.". If she understands the role requirements of her wife, their mutual feelings will naturally increase.
Role support is also widely expressed in professional, amateur, and family life between couples. "The husband has been really busy at work for some time, and he has less concern for his family. Can his wife support him?"? Can a husband understand that his wife sometimes engages in more social activities due to work needs? Such as this, there are role support issues.
2. Role penetration.
Although there are many examples of "yin soft and yang hard" marital situations in real life, there are also cases full of sweet feelings and intimate meanings. Because marriage is difficult to exist without role differentiation, most married people are an experience, and women often want to gain a sense of security from their husbands, while the vast majority of men expect a sense of tenderness from their wives. These different role expectations are normal and conducive to the improvement of the marriage relationship.
However, does this mean that a wife can rely on her husband for everything, and a husband does not need to be gentle and considerate towards his wife? Not at all. In real life, quite a few husbands accuse their wives of being "nagging and incompetent". Isn't it true that they require their wives to be "feminine and hard"? Both men and women have their own emotional needs, especially when a person is frustrated, they need the other person to be soft and strong. Therefore, when a man needs support, his wife's timely strength will be greatly appreciated by his husband.
3. Role exchange. The so-called role exchange means that the wife plays the role of the husband and the husband plays the role of the wife.
Novelty stimulation is a psychological need. Engaging in a role for a long time can also be tiresome. In modern families, both spouses have a certain motivation to pursue achievement. Often for a period of time, the husband is busy with his career, while the wife is doing "virtuous and helpful work"; For another period of time, the wife is committed to self study, and the husband can also act as a "virtuous wife helper", exchanging roles with each other in a timely manner. In marriage, there are also couples who consciously exchange roles, positions, and responsibilities, thereby experiencing the ups and downs of each other, which is beneficial to improving the marital relationship. If you desire to achieve a sweet marriage life, you can explore the art of "role elasticity".
