Post Date December, 02 2023
Couple life inevitably leads to arguments over various trivial matters. However, when a couple quarrels, it is not only easy to hurt their feelings, but also more likely to make their wife hurt their "heart". What the hell is going on here? Let's take a look together.
Core Tip: Research in the United States has found that when couples argue, wives are more likely to break their hearts and have a higher risk of developing heart disease in the future. Wives who remain silent during arguments not only suffer from various diseases, but also have a higher mortality rate.
According to Singapore's Lianhe Zaobao, it is common for couples to quarrel. But when you look at the other person who doesn't like you, do you have a big argument or use silence as a defense? A survey has found that venting one's unhappiness or being silent can have a significant impact on a couple's health index and even lead to death.
A survey conducted by 4000 married men and women in Massachusetts, USA, found that 32% of men would completely vent their worries and unhappiness when arguing with their wives, while only 23% of women. This report points out that women who remain silent or swallow their breath can cause significant harm to their health; Self silence can lead to depression, heart disease, anorexia, and more.
The survey also shows that wives who often remain silent and do not like to confide in their husbands have a mortality rate four times higher than those who often express their dissatisfaction to their partners. The control of tone is also crucial in marital arguments, which means that if you want to argue, you need to be skilled in it. This technique includes:
Speak from the facts without harming the innocent. Never involve a lot of old things in a quarrel, and do not strike down the other party's family, relatives, friends, colleagues, etc.
Taking retreat as a means of progress, from prosecution to communication.
Concentrate your firepower and avoid air to air arguments. Effective communication includes saying 'I' instead of 'you', avoiding sarcasm, and interrupting the other person's speech without hesitation.
Don't engage in a consumptive cold war. Don't think of punishing others in various forms, because at the same time, you are also punishing yourself.
Marriage experts say that loving couples and couples in the world all know how to give each other a step down, and they themselves will also be skilled at it.
There are always some bumps and turns in life, but there is nothing difficult for couples to get through. If you consider each other from their perspective, you will find that there is no need to argue about them.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
