Post Date December, 02 2023
In life, there are always some couples who, whenever there is a conflict, dig up all the past issues of stale sesame seeds and rotten grains. Originally, there is no big problem, but because of these old accounts, they become more and more aggrieved and angry. In the end, the other party becomes increasingly impatient, often ending in a big argument.
In fact, many times the reason why people are troubled and painful is because their memory is too good, and they always cannot let go of past people and events. Why do you make yourself so tired with a flick of your finger in this lifetime? Why not be a person with a bad memory and live a more natural and happy life?
Forget about the favors you have given to others
There is an old saying that goes, 'Don't expect to repay kindness, don't expect to repay kindness.'.
But in life, some people, after giving a helping hand to others, feel that they owe themselves and keep thinking about wanting others to be grateful and repay them with something. In front of the other party, they often unconsciously assume a high attitude, arrogant and impolite. It's okay to do it twice a time. Over time, even if someone receives his great favor, they will become impatient. He felt even more uncomfortable in his heart, thinking that the other party was ungrateful, feeling that he had wasted all his kindness, becoming disappointed, angry, and even resentful, irritable and painful.
Helping others is originally a good thing, but it has become a burden due to being too focused on it, making oneself unhappy. When everyone needs a helping hand, remember more about others' help and less about your own kindness to others, and your life will be much easier.
Let go of resentment towards others and past unhappiness
In this lifetime, we will encounter many people who have experienced many things, many of whom may make us jump with anger, gnash our teeth with hatred, and many things may make us struggle and even unable to sleep well.
When a person's heart is filled with resentment and unhappiness, it actually imprisons their own heart. Your eyes will always be fixed on the person you hate, and many of the things you do will unconsciously go against that person, gradually living less and less like yourself.
And those unhappiness are like a scar, every time you think of it, it hurts once; The more you keep it in your heart, the harder it becomes to heal.
So many times in life, it's best to have a poor memory and forget about resentment towards others and past unhappiness. Putting it down is the best liberation. One day when we throw away these things, we will find that the long lost sunlight finally passes through the shadows and projects onto ourselves.
Don't always immerse yourself in the halo of the past
Some people say that immersing oneself in the glory of the past is the biggest stumbling block to the future. Everyone has a past, there have been moments of prosperity, but after all, it's just the past. And too many people in life cannot understand that it is to use the past to define themselves as they are now.
Seeing those who were not as good as themselves in the past but are now doing better than themselves, I don't want to strive to catch up, but I always feel unfair: why is it that a person who used to be so bad now lives so well? While others are steadily moving forward, they are eating their old ways, thinking that they are too smart. The gap between them is getting wider, and life is getting worse.
This type of person is immersed in the halo of the past and refuses to come out. They always think that their current poor life is a lack of talent, a deliberate failure to live with themselves, and therefore feel resentful and dissatisfied with everything they see.
Yesterday's day cannot be left behind, neither can the halo of the past. If you don't care so much about the halo of the past, you won't always stop and be dissatisfied with life. It's better to stay grounded in life.
Life is too short to be a person with poor memory
Take a look at the people around you, and you will find that those with good memories often live unhappy lives. They are obsessed with too many things in their hearts, unwilling to let go, so they are trapped and always struggling in pain.
But a person's life is too short, there is not so much time to worry about and waste. It's better to be a person with a bad memory, and forget the past and don't dwell on it anymore. Life must always move forward, let go of others, let go of the past, and also let go of oneself.
