Post Date December, 03 2023
Every adult yearns for love and then hopes to enter marriage smoothly. Psychological experts have observed from the practice of blind dates between male and female students that it is difficult for men and women with immature psychological age to succeed in blind dates, specifically manifested in the following types.
1、 Dependency type.
Such people often have unclear interpersonal boundaries, and when they encounter someone they seem to like in a romantic relationship, they quickly fall in love and see marriage as fulfilling their desires, needs, expectations, hopes, and goals. The characteristic of this type of foreign aid marriage is that one party uses the other party to achieve their own wishes, pinning future happiness and happiness on the other party, and the outcome is either contradictory, entangled, or conflicting, and falling apart.
2、 Cold hearted.
This type of person has too strong "independence", resists dependence, deliberately clarifies interpersonal boundaries, panics when relationships get close, and avoids establishing intimate relationships. This makes people feel insecure and unable to establish true intimate relationships.
3、 Perfect shape.
They are deeply influenced by their parents, seeking another partner according to the perfect parental image, and projecting the parent-child relationship into their romantic relationship, demanding their lovers to unconditionally care for themselves and take care of themselves, just like their parents do.
4、 Confused type.
I don't know what kind of partner I want to find, what kind of home I want to establish, and I have particularly high expectations for my partner and future family. This type of person often cannot accommodate the shortcomings of the other person in male and female interactions, and even the small flaws of the other person will magnify them. This mentality of not knowing how to focus on the big and let go of the small makes it difficult for them to find happiness.
In fact, happiness is not difficult to find, but it requires psychological maturity, which is mainly manifested in:
1、 Clear interpersonal boundaries. Do not use others to fulfill one's wishes, do not place one's future on others, be independent and responsible for one's actions.
2、 Accept differences. Treat the other person truthfully, knowing that they have strengths and accepting their weaknesses, making your love implicit, moderate, and stable.
3、 Emotional combination. I am not overly obsessed with sex, nor do I have obvious sexual repression or fear. My attitude towards sex is positive, engaged, and focused, and we respect each other both spiritually and physically.
True love arises from interaction and balance, growing and continuously improving one's ability to love through practice. It integrates the ability to feel love, experience love, create love, and transmit love. By doing these, you have already grasped happiness.
