Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I were in college. He chased me for more than two years before I agreed to be his girlfriend. It was not that I rejected my husband at the beginning, but that I did not want to rush into love after hearing the public opinion about the graduation and death of campus love. Because my husband, a northerner and a southerner, was deeply afraid that after love, I would only get hurt.
However, my husband's persistence finally moved me, so we started the love of "never break up after graduation".
In fact, after graduating from college, I returned to the south, and my husband came to the south with me.
We married naturally and had children naturally.
However, with the progress of marriage, my husband became more and more critical of me, especially in recent years, and even used words such as "resentful woman" and "shrew" to describe me, which led to more and more disputes between us.
Think about the beauty of the past. I really don't know why marriage has been managed like this.
My husband also often compares me with his colleague's wife. In his eyes, I am simply worthless.
Marriage is like chicken ribs, but my husband and I never mentioned divorce.
Yesterday, when my husband went to the bathroom, his mobile phone was on the coffee table. At this time, a text message came in. I picked it up and looked at it. The content was as follows: Honey, what are you doing? I miss you.
I picked up my mobile phone, rushed into the bathroom and questioned my husband squatting on the toilet: explain to me.
The husband said at the beginning that the other party might have made a mistake. Later, they said they were just 'spiritual partners'.
In my marriage dictionary, there has never been "cheating". Now, my husband has added "cheating" to it.
In the face of the sudden family disaster, my husband promised that he would draw a clear line with the third child, and at the same time listed many of my faults.
Last night without sleep, I have been reviewing my shortcomings in marriage. In general, I am still a qualified wife, daughter-in-law and mother. Why does the husband choose to cheat?
Reply:
Before marriage, a man will pack himself into the best value of excellence because of loneliness, physiological needs, and the need to be married. He will show his grandson's attitude in front of his girlfriend and follow his advice.
However, when a man gets a marriage certificate and enters the besieged city from then on, he will feel that he has lost his freedom in the face of the constraints of marriage, and even feel that his wife is the culprit in depriving him of his freedom. For this reason, you will have feelings of love and hate for your wife.
The most expressive act of love between husband and wife is' care ', which is accompanied by various' nagging'. For example, women will nag when the meal is still crawling in front of the computer to play games; For example, when a man is drunk, a woman will nag.
In fact, nagging is the concrete manifestation of love, but men don't appreciate it. For this reason, many men miss the state when they were single or in love.
And because we are used to hiding our private life, we see that other people's life state is only the skin of disguise, but men will think 'why other people's wife can be absolutely tolerant of her husband, why my wife can't'. Once a man has such a view, it will form an unwritten phenomenon: envy others' wives.
Driven by this concept, you will feel that your marriage is not satisfactory, and then try extramarital affairs.
In fact, men and mistresses can only take what they need for money and temptation.
The wife will nag her husband because he is drunk and worried about his health; When the mistress sees his lover drinking, even if he dies in the wine market, he will not talk much.
Such details of life will not be cited.
In a word, a man will find the mistress docile and clever, and think that his wife is an unforgivable housekeeper.
However, the reason why men choose their wives in the struggle between their wives and mistresses stems from the fact that men know in their hearts who gives them real care.
For this reason, I want to say to married women that they can give care in front of their husbands, but do not upgrade their care to the level of broken thoughts.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
