Post Date December, 03 2023
Not all marriages are unbreakable. When the high temperature of love falls down, facing the real life, the loving couple will also have various contradictions. If not handled properly, it will lead to the breakdown of the relationship, and eventually the love will fall apart.
From a psychological point of view, "emotional breakdown" has to go through four stages: dispute, precaution, crack and rupture.
How can love be said to break?
First, disputes
After the husband and wife join hands in the bridal chamber, after the hot period, they enter the period of conflict. If the conflict is not resolved in time, it will become a dispute and tangled disputes. Generally speaking, disputes are mostly manifested in leakage among the parties with low cultural level and bilious and bloody nature, such as quarrels, fights, and destruction of objects. Through mediation, it can be solved, but then it will be repeated, and the civil war will not end. Among the parties with high cultural level, mucilaginous and depressive nature, they are mostly characterized by depression in the inside and no quarrel in the outside, but they are indifferent to each other in the heart and have gaps in the heart. Mediation is not easy to work.
Second, be on guard
Due to the accumulation of disputes, couples are on guard from estrangement, which is commonly known as "bedfellows.". In the form of vigilance, the fetishists often hide from each other in terms of property and income and expenditure, while the externals hide from each other's dealings with the opposite sex. In order to prevent the other party from seizing the handle and getting to know the truth, both parties are on guard in terms of economy and social relations, and even personal career problems and future problems. They also keep their mouth shut and guard each other layer by layer like anti-theft.
Third, cracks
Secrets are always revealed one day. If the secret disclosure causes more serious disputes, it will increase the vigilance; As a result, a vicious circle was formed and cracks finally appeared. Cracks are expressed as strong dissatisfaction in emotion and mutual deviation in behavior. At this time, most people with living conditions live separately; Those who have no living conditions, even if they live together, are also back-to-back, and the well water does not pollute the river.
Fourth, rupture
The cracks are getting bigger and bigger, and can't be sealed. The feelings are completely broken. There are roughly three modes of choice for couples with broken feelings: one is to go their separate ways and divorce through legal procedures; Second, considering various reasons, it is inconvenient to divorce, so we have to make do with life, bear the burden of frustration, and the relationship between husband and wife is in name only; The third is that the relationship is broken and cannot be reversed. It is only for the purpose of torturing the other party, refusing to divorce, "holding him (her) back and not making him (her) happy". This kind of drag is both stupid and immoral, and harmful to others and themselves.
If you form inside, you will go outside. There are four stages of emotional breakdown. The first two are internal, "cause", and generally belong to the category of internal activities; The latter two are "results", and generally belong to the category of action. Therefore, in order to prevent emotional breakdown, we should adjust when the conflict between husband and wife occurs, and solve the conflict in the bud.
