Post Date December, 03 2023
If you often flirt with people without success, or even can't get into the relationship at all, or you often think that you are flirting but he may have a girlfriend after a while, and often can't go further with the people I like. I have sorted out four types from all the cases I have met this time for your reference.
Failure type 1:
Live in your own world with high vision and low skill
The biggest characteristic of this kind of person is that they think they are very good, and that they can't communicate because of their own problems. Although it is a good thing to have confidence, many people may misunderstand the meaning of confidence. Confidence is the state that they must objectively know how much weight they have, and accept and be happy. It is not a puffy face to be fat. Although they are medium in appearance, they insist that they can be tied with the school flower. Or, clearly, the other party doesn't like her, but insists on making up for the other party's liking, holding on to some tiny signs that don't necessarily represent the other party's liking, and living in their own world doesn't allow others to destroy them.
Usually, such a person's self-evaluation is higher than that of others. As long as they are praised, they will be very happy and want to share with others everywhere. As long as things are wrong, they will feel that it is because of some force majeure, so it is not smooth. The reason why the other party can't communicate with him is almost what. In fact, he is the right person, but the time is wrong. Why can't he be together when he likes each other clearly? The other party says he doesn't want to have a girlfriend or hasn't come out of the shadow of his predecessor (ah, he doesn't like it so much, he doesn't want to be together! Is it hard to understand!) He always likes a lot more people than he can handle.
Solution: The solution is to face reality! You just have a high vision, but your head and ability can't keep up. Maybe your appearance is really not bad, but it is because you are too detached from reality that you always encounter failure. But now that I live in my own world, I don't expect such people to wake up when they can see this article... After all, such people are easy to find various excuses to avoid their failure.
Failure type 2:
High expectations, too boring
Such people are usually good in appearance, and often attract boys at the beginning. It is the temperament and appearance that boys want to approach and like. But it's a pity that boys usually get cold after they get to know each other slowly (or after dating once or twice), so that the parties don't know what's going on at all. They were not very enthusiastic and dating didn't happen. Why did they get cold in the end? And it's the boys who have the chance to get cold! This is actually very simple. It is also a case that I often encounter in the consultation. The appearance is obviously good and the temperament is also good, but it is just that when I meet a boy, I need to make a look and maintain a certain perfect image. I'm afraid of embarrassments and can't relax. This kind of situation will also occur to girls who want to deal with men with all kinds of tricks. Because they think that boys like to show an impeccable appearance, it makes people feel bored. They dare not show their true appearance, which is not natural.
You are not so busy that boys can watch for 24 hours without being bored with endless reverie and fun. You play safety cards for everything, but the end of playing safety cards is boring and not special. Of course, boys will get along with each other soon and gradually get cold. The boys you will like are more interesting than those who are positive (of course, positive and interesting are better)
Solution: Don't divide boys and girls so clearly, and take it lightly. Don't treat men as men or objects, and just be yourself, which will make others more interested in you.
Failure type 3:
Too strong to compliment
Usually, people who are too strong won't admit that they are too strong. Although they may often be said to be strong, they don't think so. But the problem is that I don't think so. In fact, when I think about it carefully, why do others say you are strong? Are you lying? Why lie? Why not say that you are very feminine, but rather strong? Even when others say you are strong, they may have converged a lot. What others want to express is that it is difficult to get along with you. Strong people are usually not easy to accept what others say. They often insist that they are right. They may speak a little faster or have a sense of professionalism. They often have the opportunity to choke boys (but boys usually do not choke each other back).
He may also be picky about others. He thinks that none of the men around him has passed the exam. He thinks that all the good men have died, but it's hard to meet a stronger man who doesn't like you. You are not willing to show the flexible side of women. You may even think that using women's means is the performance of the weak, or even think that such people are bitches. But this is the problem. You give up the biggest and best weapon for women, but you have to fight with men with male characteristics. After the fight, you still expect the other party to fall in love with you. Then why doesn't he love men? Why do he love you? Maybe you will have many admirers, but few of them dare to act, and they are not the objects you will look at.
Solution: Try not to look at people and things around you with a picky eye, and don't overly adhere to your own ideas. There will be different answers to right and wrong according to different positions, and try to find a lovely and likeable place on each person, enjoy the feeling of getting along with each person, reduce the habit of inserting needles at the seams, and slightly reduce your sharpness, People with ability and femininity are a rare combination. If you can open and close, your ability will become a part of the relationship that is worthy of men's appreciation.
Failure type 4:
Too cautious and submissive
This is very similar to the second type of failure, but the second type may only be, but not to please. The fourth type of failure is more flattering, and it will become a good girl. Anything can be done, and even it will be difficult to refuse a boy's request to go to bed. Usually such girls will attract some male-hating boys or weirdos. Although you look good at everything and are easy to get along with, you are too lacking in your own personality, which is also one of the reasons for failure. Getting along with you may often turn into the following status, but in fact, no one likes to be flattered. We only like to be treated kindly by people we think are valuable. Whether it's a friend or a lover, we all hope that it will be interesting and enjoyable at least if you have intercourse. If you don't do anything wrong but please others, others will think you have nothing to like.
Solution: stop thinking that you must do something beneficial to the other party before you can be liked, try to be friendly, and even try to change the situation.
