Post Date December, 02 2023
After two people have lived together for a long time, it is inevitable that they will encounter problems. Occasionally, trivial matters can also cause you to lose your temper involuntarily, even accompanied by angry screams and shouts. You, who have always been gentle, may also be surprised by your own "strength.".
Is it necessary to shout at such a close distance? Afraid the other person won't hear? I can't figure out why. "But every time we encounter a quarrel, we can't help but raise the decibel, and as a result, the quarrel between the two people often gets worse... What's the matter?"?
There is a saying that when two people are angry with each other, their hearts and minds are far apart. To fill this gap, they must shout loudly so that they can hear each other. "If they become more angry, the distance between their hearts becomes more distant, so only by shouting more forcefully can they hear each other.". On the other hand, why people often mutter in love can be well explained together.
It does sound reasonable, and the simultaneous occurrence of arguments and high decibels will undoubtedly worsen the relationship. However, we also know that there is no direct connection between the distance between hearts and whether to speak loudly. For example, two strangers, whose hearts are far apart from each other, do they even have to quarrel when they meet? Obviously not.
In fact, there is also a saying in psychology about why people are loud when arguing, which means that only those who feel safe for themselves can express their emotions loudly and directly. For example, for family members, we tend to express our emotions more directly. In the subconscious, we believe that family members will not leave us, and only then can we express our dissatisfaction loudly and angrily.
Generally speaking, when we quarrel, our emotions are easily excited, manifested in sharp language, loud and rapid voice, which is often a manifestation of negative emotions and self psychological regulation.
In addition, from a physiological perspective, when people are emotionally excited, their sympathetic nerves are excited, and they are in a state of stress. Various functions are increased, such as increased adrenaline secretion, elevated blood pressure, faster heartbeat, and increased vital capacity. The sound emitted naturally becomes loud.
Of course, when arguing, the sound becomes louder and louder, or it may be due to uncontrollable emotions, or it may be due to a deliberate increase in decibels due to a desire to gain the upper hand.
But what we need to understand is that screaming or shouting when people are angry is not the best way to solve a problem, but it can make your relationship more and more difficult. However, if you know how to skillfully argue or argue, rather than recklessly rely on decibels to solve problems, it will also benefit your relationship. This is another subject!
