Who are you easily deceived by

We often hear that many people blame the other person's mistakes for the failure of their relationship after they have been broken in love, cheated, cheated, or injured. Of course, on the surface, it seems that the other party is wrong, so you will be hurt. We also often comfort people who are lovelorn or injured by saying that it is all his fault! He's so rotten! You really love the wrong person! Make the other person feel better. It is easier to blame others for their mistakes than to face their own blind spots.

However, after experiencing some life experiences, we will use more constructive methods of comfort to tell our friends, "You should learn a lesson and never love the same person again!" This is all a life experience. After passing through, you will become better and meet someone more worthy of your love Congratulations on leaving someone who doesn't love you "We would like to tell our friends that loving and making mistakes is a growing experience, because in this way, you will know what you want and don't want, learn a lesson, and don't make the same mistakes in the future.".

However, the failure of a relationship is not necessarily a unilateral issue, as if you would accuse the other party of being bad to prove your good. However, if you are so good and your relationship is so good, how can there be any problems? In fact, what we really need to do is reflect and review, and find your blind spots and problems from a failed relationship, so that you won't fall in love with the same person and encounter the same emotional problems again.

"But some people will say, 'It's all him who's sorry for me. Why should I review myself, not him?'" Why should I reflect on myself when he is clearly the one who is cheating? Is it my fault that he doesn't love me?

"Not really, but rather, you need to put aside the other person's problems. His mistakes are past tense, and you don't need to torture your present and future with his mistakes.". You have to face yourself in this relationship. What's your problem? This is the most important thing that affects you. It's true that the other party has problems, but we must also have problems ourselves to be with the person with the problem! isn't it?

For example, why do you like such people? Why did he apologize to you and you stay with him? If he can cheat you, what kind of person are you easily deceived by? Why would he come to deceive you instead of others? If he is bad, what bad traits would you be attracted to him? If he openly abused you, why would you continue to abuse yourself together? Why do you like someone who doesn't fit you?

Why do you tolerate intolerable things in this relationship? Why do you deceive yourself? Why do you think you can change him when you know he's very flowery? Why do you still refuse to let go when you clearly don't love him? And why do you always like the same kind of rotten person?

If you were originally in a good relationship, what would be the problem? He used to be a great person, but why did he turn into a rotten person? You always argue. Do you know what the problem is The most frightening thing is that you think you have no problems with yourself, the other person, and your relationship. So what's the problem with breaking up in the end? Is it a third-party problem? Or are you two unwilling to face the problem?

"It's like when I was in my 20s, I was once hacked. I just wanted to blame the other person, but later on, I realized that I didn't really care about him either.". I used to think that being a victim meant I had no problems, but it wasn't because before he didn't love me, I didn't care about him that much. Many times, the right and wrong feelings and problems are not so absolute. Perhaps, when we accuse each other of making mistakes, we should also think about whether there is something wrong with ourselves or our relationship, but we are unwilling to face it.

In fact, every relationship is a topic of life, and you need to learn from it, allowing yourself to grow and gain from this experience, which is the most important thing. Therefore, instead of blaming others for their mistakes, it's better to think carefully about what your own problems are. "It's not that you didn't even break up, you didn't say goodbye, and the problem isn't with you.". What you have to face is not someone else's problem, but your own.

It is easy to blame others, and it is easier to make thousands of mistakes because they are the fault of others. But, when you think about it, it's all the other person's fault. So, must you be right? Is it all someone else's problem? Don't you have any questions? If you always criticize others to avoid the blind spots you should face, in fact, you will not grow up, and you will only use criticism to emphasize your innocence and good intentions.

After a breakup, he constantly criticizes his predecessor, and every day his face is disgusting and his negative energy explodes. Does anyone else think, "If you really have what you say is good, why doesn't he love you?"? Will the other person see your current situation and feel that it's okay to have left you in the first place?

You will find that the more mature people are, the less time they waste blaming others, because they just want to let go of their mistakes and make themselves better.

If you are always unwilling to let go (letting go of others is also letting go of yourself), and do not learn from past mistakes and mistakes, you cannot make yourself better, nor can you find happiness and happiness. Even if you repeat the same mistake, eat the same loss, fall the same fall, hurt or be hurt.

"Since you have fallen, don't turn around and curse that fall again. If you have loved, don't let yourself live in hatred anymore.". Now that it's over, you need to make your future more stable, love more worthwhile, and be happier. This is your best gain and price. As for how the other person will lead, whether there is retribution, and whether it is happiness, it has nothing to do with you. Perhaps he also learns and changes from it. What you need to do is not to look back, but to focus on yourself.

Calm down and think about the mistakes, misconceptions, and blind spots you often make in your relationships, and where you need to change and improve. If you accidentally encounter the same problem in the future, what would you do differently? Is there any need to change your personality, and is your mindset more mature. To prevent your future from encountering the same problems, you must learn to handle your own problems, so that you can avoid making the same mistakes and falling in love with the same wrong people.

A friend of mine recently said that she used to put too much emphasis on love and put the other person at the center of her life. As a result, she was under great pressure and the other person was not happy. After being single for a while, she said she was happy now and didn't rush to fall in love, but rather enjoyed the beauty of getting along with herself. She feels that as her personality matures and her needs and views on love differ, she won't be in the same relationship again. I am very happy for her because she has emerged from a failed relationship, made herself better off, and knows better what she wants.

In emotions, it is more important to reflect on one's own problems than to blame others for their mistakes.

Accusing others won't bring you any gains. Reflecting on yourself will make you better.