First, around the age of 40 is the golden age of life and career.
Whether rich or poor, whether in office or in business, the age of 40 is undoubtedly the peak period of life. At this stage, officials are at the peak of their careers or entering the peak period, business people are at the most proud or entering the most proud stage, and even farmers and workers are at the most proud period of their lives. During this period, men and women are in the golden age of life and career, including money, status, and body. It is precisely for this reason that others' admiration, admiration, and admiration for them have reached a peak. The so-called mature men and women, aged 40, are undoubtedly the best time. However, during this period, they cannot objectively evaluate themselves, often cannot control their emotions, and intentionally or unintentionally let their bodies Emotions crossed the final line.
Second, around the age of 40, the body needs a sense of freshness to stimulate sexual excitement.
The so-called "7 year itch" and "10 year itch" are actually the stage when the relationship between husband and wife returns to normal. This stage is emerging after the age of 30. Due to the fading of mutual freshness, the attraction between each other has become much less than before, and the body is still young, but the compatibility between each other has become perfunctory, even mentally weak. The fundamental reason is that they are too familiar, unable to lift their spirits, and need fresh feelings. As a wife, due to her husband's neglect and deviance, they are motivated by need or revenge, so Red Apricot leaves the wall.
Third, couples around the age of 40 tend to gather less and leave more.
Men and women at the age of 40 are at the peak of their careers, at the best stage of their busy pursuit of life values. Due to their busy careers and endless journeys throughout the day, couples naturally gather less and leave more. During the long separation period, due to the needs of their careers and businesses, it is inevitable to experience many places full of lights and wine, under the temptation of the outside world, under the persuasion of friends, and under the reasons for work needs, Passively or actively crossing emotional boundaries.
Fourth, around the age of 40, men and women are experiencing the most conflicts of all kinds.
Family conflicts between men and women at the age of 40 are at a peak. For example, both parents are around the age of 70, and it is a period of frequent illness that requires support and attention. However, children are growing up, rebellious, or highly stressed in learning, which requires a high degree of attention. This period is also a period of maximum family spending. Housing, medical care, education, and especially social competition require a large amount of expenditure to maintain, In particular, it takes a lot of effort. If one is careless, family conflicts can become too much, especially between couples, which often lead to divorce. At the age of 40, we are at the peak of our career. We need to handle all kinds of relationships and struggles well, and each one needs to be a big headache. Under the interweaving of various contradictions, finding a moment of joy to avoid conflicts may be the best solution.
Fifthly, around the age of 40, there is the greatest difference in the appearance of men and women.
Men around the age of 40 often have no significant differences in appearance compared to those before 10, while women tend to be very different from women at the age of 30 due to reasons such as having children and working hard at home. Therefore, there is a saying that a man at the age of 40 has only one flower, while a woman at the age of 40 has no significant difference in age. At this time, men tend to be absent-minded about the "yellow faced woman" at home, Unable to even mention sexual interest, coupled with external temptations, men's infidelity at this stage has become a common psychological cue for men. And now 40 year old women are not vegetarian. Although they have become "yellow faced women" in the eyes of their husbands, due to the emergence of beauty technology, there is also a need for men to seek stimulation and change their tastes, coupled with women's natural ability to seduce men. Especially, 30 like wolves and 40 like tigers are the times when women most need them, and the derailment is completed in the moment a woman takes the initiative.
Sixthly, around the age of 40 is the time when couples have the greatest social status differences.
At the time of marriage, the difference in social status between couples may not be significant, but after more than a decade of struggle, at this stage, there have been significant differences in positions, earning abilities, and opportunities between couples. Some have become millionaires, some have become high-ranking officials, while the other has not made any progress, or even worse. Of course, there are couples who share the benefits equally, but such couples have their own ruthlessness, Due to the changes in the status relationship between couples, there have also been cracks in their relationships. Especially for some men and women around the age of 40, they have been able to achieve their current status mainly through the use of hidden rules. Especially in the era of rampant hidden rules, due to the needs of their own careers and other aspects, the vows of eternal love between couples in those years have already been cast out of their minds, and not divorce has already given each other a great deal of face. If we want to prevent them, Keeping mistresses, mistresses, and lovers in public has become the most common phenomenon among men and women aged 40.
Confucius's summary of "40 years old without confusion" is no longer suitable for today's humans. Men and women aged 40 are actually at a stage of confusion, and more and more people are actually trapped in the so-called period of "40 years old without confusion". With the prolongation of human lifespan and the postponement of the retirement age, perhaps the age of doubt for humans will be postponed beyond the age of 60. "Men and women, in fact, are just a handful of things, but they are always cutting, managing, and confusing humans until now.".