Q: I have a difficult question to ask. I don't know if it's because I gave birth to a baby. I feel that my vagina has become loose, which my husband also feels. Vaginal relaxation affects our feelings about sexual activity. What should we do?
Answer: You haven't mentioned your level of satisfaction with your sexual life, for example, how excited are you? Have you had an orgasm? How can one achieve orgasm? When a woman is completely excited, about one-third of the outside of the vagina narrows and two-thirds of the inside expands. The external tightening of the vagina can provide sufficient friction for the completely erect penis.
At present, it seems that the best way to solve your vaginal relaxation and make you both feel good during sexual activity is to try to use foreplay to help you achieve sexual excitement, so as to increase the tension outside the vagina. Additionally, increasing foreplay time can also cause your husband's penis to fully erect.
In addition, you should go to the hospital to check if there is really any vaginal enlargement or pelvic muscle injury caused by giving birth. Although these situations may indeed exist, the probability of occurrence is generally very small.
If possible, you can also seek the help of a sex therapist to learn how to increase sexual excitement. It is best to go with your husband and learn how to communicate their preferences together. After understanding what normal reactions are and learning how to enhance sexual pleasure, you may realize that your vagina is fine.