Post Date April, 15 2023
It's not up to you to decide whether you are educated or not
"Nurturing" is a high-frequency word. Nowadays, to say someone is uneducated is to criticize and belittle them. To say that a woman is uneducated is like saying that she is a miss escort.
What is parenting? The dictionary says "culture and moral cultivation", but I prefer to understand it as "good qualities and habits developed through education.".
A person can receive education, but he is still uneducated. It's like a person who can keep eating, but his intestines and stomach don't absorb it. He's still as thin as a log. However, it seems that this statement cannot be reversed - a person without a systematic education can be very cultured.
Nurturing is not innate. If no one teaches a child good habits and relevant knowledge, he must be foolish and superficial. Of course, this "teaching" is broadly defined, not only referring to the admission of teachers, but also including the words and deeds of parents and the influence of the environment.
Like wealth, upbringing requires evidence. If you say you have money or not, you need to produce an asset certificate. The evidence of upbringing is not how many books you have read, how prominent your family background is, nor how familiar you are with etiquette, how skilled you are at using knives and forks, and how well you wear evening gowns... These are just some superficial bubbles, and the most crucial evidence may include the following.
Love nature.
The reason why it is listed as the first evidence of cultivation is that a person who does not understand the awe of nature and the insignificance of human beings must be a frog in a well, and cultivation is a thousand miles away. This may not be surprising to him, because without education, it is difficult for a person to spontaneously understand the greatness of the universe and the insignificance of humanity. Without the corresponding knowledge of natural science, in addition to appearing ignorant and narrow, people are bound to be blind and arrogant. The reason why children are taught to love flowers and plants from an early age is the most basic training of this great insight. "If one sees an adult cruelly climbing trees, one usually judges without hesitation that this person is too uneducated.". It can be seen that parenting and green are closely linked. A person who knows how to live in harmony with nature and care for silent plants may, by extension, cherish more animals and their own kind.
A cultured person should be able to freely use the common language to express his heart and communicate with others, and be able to put it into writing appropriately.
By public language, I mean a clean and bright language that everyone, from ordinary people to intellectuals, can understand, rather than some narrow local slang or professional language in a specific situation. This requirement is not to gild the lily. In this era of competitive development, too many people only speak the internal language of their industry, only languages that machines and instruments can understand, but do not know how to communicate closely with people. This is not a criticism, but a fact. The mastery of communication with people, especially with strangers, is usually not spontaneous, but acquired through learning and practice. "An uneducated person has a limited and impoverished vocabulary. In addition to describing their physical sensations, such as hunger, thirst, sleep, and reproductive desires, they have a very vague understanding of their inner feelings, because the words used to describe their inner feelings are often abstract and skilful.". It is difficult to express it clearly and appropriately without learning.
Those who, despite their unique skills, cannot brilliantly use the sacred medium of public language to communicate and interpret their own souls are hardly considered educated people. Technology is used to make a living, and simply having the ability to make a living is not enough. Just as wolves hunt spontaneously for food, it is an instinct that can be mastered almost without education. And man, no doubt, should be one notch above the jackal.
A cultured person with a proper understanding of history knows what tortuous paths we have traveled as human beings.
Of course, upbringing does not make everyone as knowledgeable as historians, but upbringing can make a thoughtful person know where we came from and where we are going. Through history, education enables us not only to live at this moment, but also to live in the past and the future, as if living in a surging river, knowing the direction of springs and oceans.
A cultured person, in addition to the immediate things and gains and losses, can not help but think of his lofty goals.
Nurturing broadens one's attention, becoming grand and bright. Every individual has moments of sinking in the dark canyon, when you are trekking and climbing, although scarred, because of your upbringing, you know that time is flowing, and you understand temporary and permanent. I believe there must be an exit from the canyon in a distant place, where there are waterfalls roaring.
A cultured person, especially a woman, has a warm understanding and appreciation of her body, knows their unique and clear names, understands that they are exquisite and clean, and that every part of the body has irreplaceable functions, without distinction between high and low.
He knows that a large part of his happiness and satisfaction is built on these functional sensitivities and sound integrity. He also knows without any doubt that his brain is the master of his body. He will not let his organs control what he does, he is sober and has control. He respects the body of others as well as his own. Respect the rights of others as well as the rights of oneself. While galloping the steed of one's own will, one also carefully maintains the grass of others.
A cultured person is full of respect, awe, and admiration for various excellent human qualities, such as loyalty, courage, trust, diligence, mutual assistance, sacrifice oneself to save others, fearlessness in the face of danger, perseverance, and perseverance.
Not everyone can practice it, but they know how to love and praise it. "A person cannot be cowardly and lazy, but he cannot disguise these bad habits as high manners and integrity, and cannot denigrate all those who have done these things because he cannot be noble.". "You can kneel in the mud, but you can't smear the mud on the chest of the whole world, and thus pretend that there is dirt everywhere.".
A cultured person knows fear.
Knowing fear is a meaningful and valuable thing. It expresses a clear understanding of its own limitations, knowing that there are some insurmountable boundaries in the world, and knowing that there is sunshine in the world, and there is just punishment under the sunshine. Being afraid of just punishment and thus restricting oneself is a manifestation of strong willpower.
A cultured person knows to look up at the mountains and the universe, to look up at great discoveries and personalities, and to express respect for heights beyond their reach, rather than blindly closing their eyes or cynically sneering.
Cultivation cannot be achieved overnight. Nurturing is a long process. Cultivation can be lost or picked up. The upbringing also has a certain firm spread and established track. Cultivation is the sum of some habits. To some extent, cultivation does not live on our skin, but thrives in our bone marrow. Nurturing and heredity are almost unrelated and are the product of nurture and society. Cultivation requires yeast, which can naturally exude aroma under the combined baking of imperceptible influence and conditioned reflection for sufficient time. Education is an X-ray film that measures the overall quality of a nation. "You can rely on makeup on your face, but only your inner strength can withstand scouring and testing, and it is a symbol of strength.".
