Post Date December, 03 2023
What should I pay attention to when saving my girlfriend
Breakups are often subjective reasons. Because since the beginning of their relationship, the two people have ignored the objective reasons for being together. The reason why two people break up is often in the details of the communication process. One party's outlook on life and values cannot be integrated with the other. One party's speech and cultivation cannot catch up with the other party. All of these will lead to the escalation of conflicts in bilateral exchanges. So, what should I pay attention to when saving my girlfriend?
First, don't ask if the other person is talking about a new boyfriend again
"You broke up with the other person, and whether the other person talks about friends or not has nothing to do with you.". No matter how much you like someone, if you want to save them, you shouldn't ask them. Because your questioning is viewed by the other party as suspicion and distrust. For a boyfriend who doesn't trust him, his girlfriend can't accept it at all. Asking for such a question will only exacerbate the estrangement and highlight the contradiction between you. So, regardless of whether the other person has a new boyfriend or how far their relationship has progressed, if she wants to say something, she will naturally say it. If she doesn't, don't ask more.
Second, don't dwell on your past
Know that the past belongs to death. And now is your reality. You need to find ways to find the possibility of your reunion, rather than dwell on the past. To solve a problem, we must focus on the key points of the problem. No matter what attitude the other person has towards you, you should learn to be tolerant, not to dispute, not to ask. Only by living in the present can we broaden our horizons for the future. Only by knowing how to let go can we die and be reborn. As long as you strengthen your confidence in loving each other, you can find the coupling point between your emotions. Even after experiencing many storms, there is still the possibility of a peaceful and sunny relationship between you.
Third, learn to tolerate each other
In the process of getting along with two people, we often lose each other due to haggling. The reason why we care is because we care about each other. The reason why we care is because we never thought we would lose each other. Therefore, when the other party withdraws from our life circle, we will be sad, sad, and painful. But we will understand that we do not cherish each other well. "When we understand that giving comes first and not paying back, we can seize many emotions.". If we don't know how to cherish and always say things we shouldn't, we will unconsciously lose the person we like. Therefore, we need to learn tolerance, and each tolerance will strengthen our hearts.
Fourth, pay attention to your own cultivation and politeness
In love, people often demand from each other, but it is precisely because of mutual demands that they lose the most basic courtesy towards each other. A good man knows how to show enough respect for women. Even if you cannot win over the other party, you should show your cultivation and politeness in front of the other party, and you should not speak insulting words because you cannot win over the other party. You know, the man a woman really likes in her life is necessarily the man who appreciates her. If you don't even have the least respect for her, then you shouldn't expect her to come back and love you. So the love of killing a fish and breaking a net is not true love, but just a manifestation of selfishness and possessiveness.
Conflict can be an opportunity to sublimate emotions, or it can be an excuse for not communicating with each other in old age. When encountering contradictions, it is necessary to know how to skillfully resolve them. When trying to save someone, be sure to show your sincerity. "When you forgive and tolerate the other person to what extent, the other person will accept you to what extent.". And you will have hope only if you save the other party's path.
