Post Date December, 02 2023
My husband and I have been married for six years and have a five-year-old child. My husband also spoils me in ordinary times. I never thought that he would find a lover. That woman works with him and is one year younger than him. From the call list, we can see that they have contacted very frequently in the last month. The woman said that she didn't want to destroy our feelings. Her husband said that she would not divorce me and marry her. I want to ask if I should tell her husband?
[Reply]
From your talk, you have communicated with your husband and that woman, that is, they have admitted that there is an improper relationship, right. Your husband said that he would not marry her and divorce you. The implication is to play with that female colleague and not give up on you and your family. In fact, this is also the common idea of most men who have a family in the process of developing extramarital affairs outside - the red flag at home will not fall, and the colored flag outside the home will float.
If you really have nothing to do with your husband, it's not a bad idea to start from that woman. Let that woman's husband come forward to deal with that woman and your husband. You can use your strength. However, it depends on whether the woman's husband has strength. If he should have problems and turn a blind eye to his daughter-in-law, what should you do? Can you just let it go?
Therefore, to solve the problem, you should start with your husband, find the reason from yourself, and determine the external cause from the internal cause. If you do not stop your husband's infidelity in time, make up for your own shortcomings, and improve the management ability of your marriage, your marriage will face new difficulties at any time.
[Letter from netizens]
I married a man with a financial job who was ten years older than me. It was a second marriage. I got the certificate after knowing it for a month. I took the initiative to propose it. He proposed to cohabit first and then get the certificate. I don't agree. Only after getting the certificate can I cohabit. He has been married for nearly eight months and lives in two places. He has just retired for one month. I need to work for another five years to retire. I asked him to stay with me. He came to stay with me for less than 20 days and said he didn't want to come again. Because my bed was hard, he coughed here and just went home.
I analyze that he usually goes online, has women, and chat with WeChat. Last time, I surprised him when he was not at home. I carefully found that some women's long hair had fallen off the tile in the bathroom. I asked him if he would admit it. Another time I rushed to find him hiding in the kitchen and secretly sending messages. He then set his mobile phone message to silent. That time I went to find him secretly sending messages. I questioned him. He used a poison trick and took me with a belt, threatening me not to nag again. I can't promise not to mention it any more. We sent several messages after I came back that day. I said that I was ill and will never go back.
He said that as long as I stopped nagging, he would live well with me and keep his promise, and I agreed when I was soft. He stayed here for twenty days, and then had something to say to come back, but suddenly he didn't want to come. I have a salary. He promised to let me manage money before marriage, but after marriage, he didn't want me to manage money. I didn't agree with him several times. He also said that I wanted his money, but in fact, I wanted to see if he was sincere to me.
Just last night we got into a stalemate again. He said he didn't want to come and lied to me that he went to see a doctor at his daughter's house in another place. I took a taxi and found the door locked by him! I can't get in but come back. I am very entangled. He has been shut down. I have no intention of talking with him, and I can't contact him. Because the two places are 80 miles away from each other, I feel so helpless... What should I do? Has his freshness for me passed?
[Reply]
Hello, second marriage is risky, remarriage needs to be careful! It is not clear whether your first marriage is successful. If it is not successful, why not learn the lessons of failure and treat this marriage with caution. I got the certificate after I knew it for a month. What's the difference between this and flash marriage? Just because I'm a second marriage and a newcomer, can I be so reckless?
Choosing a wedding partner is not to buy vegetables, but to put them in the basket without selection. This is not only irresponsible for yourself, but also too casual for others. I don't know what criteria you used to choose this man. What exactly do you like about him? Is it true that you are greedy for his money as this man said?
From the details you have described, your second married husband is really unreliable. He not only has a violent tendency, but also is definitely unfaithful to his feelings. He can't avoid fooling around with women outside. For such a man, who is full of shortcomings, and so selfish, and even ten years older than you, what are you worth nostalgia for? Just give up with him. Since he is now hiding from you and disappearing everywhere, you can simply ignore him. If you can make up your mind to divorce him, you can sue him unilaterally. After a certain time limit, if he still doesn't appear, the court will automatically dissolve your marriage.
