Post Date December, 03 2023
Married to my husband, our family of four lived in a house less than 90 square meters. There were constant conflicts between me and my unrelated mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and my husband was also affected by being caught in the middle. With the birth of a child, the small house becomes more crowded and the contradictions are constantly worsening. After discussing with my husband, I took out my old capital and took out a loan to buy our own house in the city center. Far apart, my relationship with my mother-in-law has become more harmonious. After the child is weaned, it is handed over to my mother-in-law for care. My husband and I work in the city and live in a new house.
Time has passed, and the child has grown up and needs to go to school. We are facing another problem, the school is too far from home, and the mother-in-law is too old to pick up and drop off the children, which is simply unbearable. My husband and I have taken on this task. I will deliver it in the first three to five days, and in the second four days, my husband will deliver it. Due to the delivery of our children to school, we often arrive late, and the company leaders are very unhappy. School district housing is too expensive. I just bought a house and I am still paying off the loan. The current conditions make it impossible to buy a school district housing.
So, I rented a house near the school specifically for picking up and dropping off children. My mother-in-law sometimes misses her grandson and comes to help pick him up for a few days. However, my father-in-law is not well and cannot leave anyone in front of him. However, this place near the school happens to be close to my unit, so the task of sending the child ultimately falls on me. In this way, my husband and I seem to be a weekend couple. He only comes to see me and the children when we are not busy with work. There is no regular pattern in marital life. Once, I was worried that this kind of life would make him physically unbearable. Watching him often call me and my child made the heart hanging down and my vigilance against him relax.
A few days ago, the school teacher called me and said that my child had a fever. I took a leave of absence at work, but before I could tell his father, I took the child directly to the hospital. After the infusion, I stayed in the hospital all night. After the child's fever subsided, we went back to our own home early in the morning. At that time, it was 7 o'clock in the morning, and I didn't call my husband. He had to go to work and probably hadn't gotten up yet. I didn't bother him. In a hurry to leave, I found my keys left in the rented house.
So I called my husband and he was in a shutdown state. I was standing outside and knocking on the door, but no one answered. My husband's car was parked in the community, so there shouldn't be nobody. After three or four minutes, my husband opened the door with a nervous expression that surprised me. I trembled even when I spoke, and I didn't get excited when I saw the child. It seemed that I didn't want to let me in when I was stuck at the door. I jokingly scolded him and said, 'You don't know how to hide a coquettish house.'. He became even more nervous, and I kicked him into the bedroom. The bed was messy, and there were still women's hair left on the pillow.
Before I could even ask, there was a sound coming from inside the cabinet. I opened the cabinet and a woman squatted inside. I exclaimed in surprise, but before I could react, she ran out. I was about to pursue her when my husband grabbed me. Panic apologized to me, saying that they had just had a relationship. The other person was his regular friend, and the two got drunk and stuck together. Afterwards, I was often away from home, and they only occasionally slept together to solve their physiological problems.
During his speech, he occasionally looked up to observe my expression, but I ignored him and looked back at the child. His haggard face looked at us naively, unaware of what had happened. My husband said he wanted me to give him a chance, hoping that for the sake of my child's face, I wouldn't divorce him. But this incident hit me too hard. At the same time, I took on the responsibility of taking care of my child in order to lighten his burden. Now, he has betrayed me and used betrayal to repay me. How can I continue with such a marriage? Please help me, teacher.
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
Hello. Lonely days always test a person's endurance. You always take care of him and bear the burden of taking care of the child, but he has sex with other women to meet their physiological needs. In the emotional world, if one party betrays, the marriage will crack and it is difficult to heal. He knows that his behavior is excessive, and he apologizes to you. Please forgive him. We cannot easily forgive a person who has made a mistake, and whether to forgive or not depends on his attitude.
You didn't mention the divorce on the spot, as you can tell, you don't want this marriage to be scrapped like this. The root cause of marriage problems is clearly caused by separation. To improve the current situation, the first step is to improve the status of the sub bureau. Children don't finish school in a moment or two, and it's not a long way for you to live apart like this. Even if he corrects his mistakes now, he will inevitably make greed in the future and won't make mistakes again. So be cautious.
Renting the house you bought to someone else, finding better rental conditions to live in near the school, owning a car and a long distance doesn't matter. At least one family can live together, which is a hundred times stronger than an invasion of your marriage by outsiders. If you don't let go of marriage, let time resolve the pain caused by his infidelity.
