Post Date December, 02 2023
My emotional experience is not about my husband, but about my sister. My family has three brothers and sisters. I am the eldest. Our brothers and sisters used to have a good relationship. Now, they are married and have their own families. Slowly, because of some family reasons, the relationship with my sister faded down, which lasted for 4 years.
I am more honest, and my sister is more intelligent. She always repels me in front of her relatives. Before, I was very angry and fought with him. Now I want to understand that it is not interesting. How many brothers and sisters are there in life! I am a sister in this life, but not in the next life. My friend will make friends after playing well, let alone sisters!
After I understood all this, I tried to make up with her. She didn't accept it and always rejected me. She also said: You don't have to be so aggrieved yourself. Why do you have to make up with me! She also used her parents and other siblings to repel me. For her, I didn't do anything wrong to her. It was because she didn't make up with me and always rejected me and looked down on me. What should I do?
reply:
As the saying goes, brothers are deeply in love with each other, breaking bones and connecting tendons. This is especially true for sisters and relatives. How can we tear down each other when we only love each other? If we were not sensible together when we were young, it would be okay to fight and make trouble. How can we grow up and become a family, but there will be discord.
You said that your brother and sister used to have a good relationship, but the conflict must have occurred after marriage. When you separate from the original big family and rebuild your own small family, you will have your own small interests. There may be comparisons between them, for example, who lives better, who gets more care from their parents, and you, as the eldest sister, may have some obligations in their eyes, but they think you have not done them, or because you have not properly controlled them, or because you have ignored them and neglected them, or because of some misunderstanding, or because of the adulteration behind family members, etc, May lead to conflicts between sisters.
For this reason, you need to ask yourself exactly what is wrong. It is impossible for sisters to have conflicts and grudges without any reason. There are always some triggering factors, but you just don't realize it at the moment. As a big sister, you should not be too fussy. As you said, it is worth cherishing and celebrating how many brothers and sisters a person has in his life. Don't let some trivial things affect each other's feelings, and don't take some interests too seriously and not worth it.
Communicate more, find a proper time to have a heart-to-heart talk with your sister, try to eliminate the unnecessary separation in your heart, and don't care if you can. The way of communication here is very important. As a sister, don't always talk in a big and small manner, and also talk less about the great principles of life. That is, get together very warmly and communicate with each other. For example, eat and drink happily together, chat freely together, and relive the good memories of childhood together, and let each other put down their guard as much as possible, and talk heartily. I want to open the stone with sincerity, As long as you pay your heart, you can always open the gate of your heart slowly.
