What should I do if my husband engages in prostitution before marriage and seeks a mistress after marriage

I have told you before about our conflict. Firstly, he was dissatisfied with my past, but he also told me that he had met a young lady before getting married, had a mistress after getting married, and had been dating for a year before he had any contact; Secondly, the child said that my tone of voice when speaking to him was not good. I admit this, but he often argued with me about trivial matters, and the child did not listen, which caused me to feel bad and feel particularly upset; Thirdly, it's the most important economic issue. Although I have some money, I don't have much. If I use it recklessly, it won't take two years. Now, my family's expenses are all my own, including the fuel cost of the car. However, he still often quarrels with me, and even small things can cause trouble. I don't know what to do now? I have also communicated with him countless times, but it's useless.

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Hello, first of all, men are animals that easily use women to talk things over. Men can indulge themselves, but cannot tolerate women to do the same behavior as themselves. Therefore, women must keep themselves clean and not leave the other party with a handle for exposing their shortcomings; Secondly, people who remarry and form families are more sensitive and suspicious, and are more likely to protect their children and worry about their stepmother's anger. If you are a second married couple, when facing their children, you should endure any anger. Your own children can get angry or even scold you, instead of being biological children. As stepmothers, you must grasp the scale, otherwise it will definitely affect the relationship between husband and wife; Finally, it is necessary for couples to maintain financial independence when living together, whether it is their original or second marriage. Of course, it is not necessary to make money and spend it on their own, but the key is to see the level of their relationship and mutual trust. If one party completely relies on the other party financially and even feels that the other party should support themselves, such people must not be seen. Therefore, it is necessary to analyze and deal with specific issues. In terms of family expenses, both spouses have the obligation to fulfill their duties and contribute to the family. As long as your man goes out to work every day, he can still give you the full amount of his salary. If it is temporary unemployment or business failure, you need to bear the expenses temporarily. I don't think it is a problem. If he is lazy, lazy, or does not seek self-improvement, or intentionally harms you, That's a different story. In short, marriage cannot be without conflicts. The key is to see if conflicts can be reconciled through efforts. If they cannot be reconciled, there is no need to let oneself persist. I personally think that if a man is always looking for trouble and harming you with trivial matters, you don't need to get too used to him.