Post Date December, 03 2023
A recent survey shows that more than 70% of the women interviewed worry that their best friend is a killer of love and is easy to become a third party between themselves and their boyfriend; Another adult said that he would rather find a boyfriend.
Seeing this result, I feel a little strange. Because "worry" can be regarded as a free association, "imagine what would happen if there were you, boyfriend and girlfriend in a relationship?"
At this time, there can be countless results of free association. Some people will think: "Maybe my boyfriend and I are very good, and my girlfriend wishes us." Some people will think: "Maybe my girlfriend won't play with me." Some people will think: "Maybe there is no intersection between the two relationships. I play with my boyfriend, I play with my girlfriend, but not three people." Of course, some people will "worry"... So, free association does not necessarily reflect the truth, But we can see the thinking tendency of the associate.
In this survey, it seems that more than 70% of women have the same thinking tendency: First, they think that their girlfriends and boyfriends tend to be unfavorable to me; 2、 I'm not as good as my best friend. As long as my best friend decides to rob me, I will probably lose. With such a tendency of thinking, it is no wonder that we should guard against girlfriends. However, this is more like the conclusion made by a group of people with low self-esteem and strong sense of victimization, which is certainly not the overall situation of women.
It is no wonder that some poorly designed online surveys have strong tendencies and tend to attract the same kind of people to participate in the click. Therefore, no matter how many samples are taken, they reflect the thoughts of this kind of people. For these conclusions, just look at smiling. Health of both sexes
The probability of a girlfriend's rapture is about the same as that of other people's rapture, which is rooted in the problem of the relationship itself.
For example, someone said, "My girlfriend, boyfriend and I are going to be together every day. I'm worried that my boyfriend will take a fancy to her." - This makes people feel puzzled. Why do you have to walk with three people every day instead of two people in a private world, and then take another time to get together with your best friend? Why is the boundary between love and friendship blurred? Where is the key point?
There are always mysteries in it. For example, some people, whose psychological development is not perfect, are difficult to adjust their emotions. They must stick to their girlfriends' lives and rely on each other to make their own spiritual tranquilizing needles; Some people lack their own opinions and can't make any decisions. They must rely on their girlfriends to make decisions; Some people have blurred the boundaries of their families since childhood. If they fall in love independently and temporarily release their girlfriends, she will always feel strong guilt and cannot comfort herself
These immature people cannot deal with love alone. They subconsciously need to bring a partner to help them improve some psychological functions. Such people, whether they have girlfriends or not, are prone to encounter a third party.
Another example is that sometimes some boys like to kill two birds with one stone when they fall in love. If he treats his girlfriend exclusively, he will feel uncomfortable, insecure, lacking, regretful, and so on. These boys are also very problematic - if girls choose such people, whether they have girlfriends or not, they will easily be cut off. The above tragedies and faults are all in the person concerned. And girlfriends, third parties, and violent love are just "symptoms".
